Dilemma...
The weather is very grey every day. It always seems to start raining the minute i leave any building, and stop as soon as i get inside.
But enough about the crappy weather. I have a dilemma. You see, Alan and I have, well i should put used to have, a friend called Paul. He's known Alan for 10 or more years, as they went to school together. I've known him for about 6 years, having spent most weekends of my first and second year at uni going up to his house to keep him company. Over the past months his communications with me and Alan have grown increasingly infrequent, ceasing altogether about 5 months ago. Now, on my part, he might equally say that i haven't contacted him. However, in my defence of this, even when we were in touch, we'd only really speak if i called him anyway, and as i have no income now, i can't afford to call and text people all the time. As far as i think, friendship works in circles, when one's having trouble the other picks up the slack, and vice versa.
Paul's best friends have always been Alan and another guy called Greg. When alan and I started going out, Paul was very sulky and and said we would abandon him and he would see us less. But that didn't happen really until i moved house, and it can't be helped while i live here. However, Greg then starts going out with another of Paul's clse friends, Sarah, and he's been just over the moon about that. They have moved house too. To jersey! Yet he still finds time to visit them, even though its miles and miles away.
Alan's more upset about it than he lets on, its never nice to be let down by a friend, never mind to come to realise that a person may not actually be a friend anymore. I mean, we found out from one of our friends last weekend that Paul has a girlfriend now, and that he may have changed his mobile phone number. Nice of him to let us know.
The dilemma, now the background is out of the way, is whether i just leave things like this, and draw a line under the friendship there. OR whether i should write him a letter explaining how Alan and I feel?
But enough about the crappy weather. I have a dilemma. You see, Alan and I have, well i should put used to have, a friend called Paul. He's known Alan for 10 or more years, as they went to school together. I've known him for about 6 years, having spent most weekends of my first and second year at uni going up to his house to keep him company. Over the past months his communications with me and Alan have grown increasingly infrequent, ceasing altogether about 5 months ago. Now, on my part, he might equally say that i haven't contacted him. However, in my defence of this, even when we were in touch, we'd only really speak if i called him anyway, and as i have no income now, i can't afford to call and text people all the time. As far as i think, friendship works in circles, when one's having trouble the other picks up the slack, and vice versa.
Paul's best friends have always been Alan and another guy called Greg. When alan and I started going out, Paul was very sulky and and said we would abandon him and he would see us less. But that didn't happen really until i moved house, and it can't be helped while i live here. However, Greg then starts going out with another of Paul's clse friends, Sarah, and he's been just over the moon about that. They have moved house too. To jersey! Yet he still finds time to visit them, even though its miles and miles away.
Alan's more upset about it than he lets on, its never nice to be let down by a friend, never mind to come to realise that a person may not actually be a friend anymore. I mean, we found out from one of our friends last weekend that Paul has a girlfriend now, and that he may have changed his mobile phone number. Nice of him to let us know.
The dilemma, now the background is out of the way, is whether i just leave things like this, and draw a line under the friendship there. OR whether i should write him a letter explaining how Alan and I feel?