There's a Ghost In Daughter's Room, And Other Tales
Yes, I truly believe there's a ghost in my daughter's room. I went to kiss her goodnight on my way to bed the other night, & I saw a lot of...extra darkness in the one corner of her room. It was kinda creepy & gave me a weird feeling. The next day she told me there was a ghost. I asked where & she said the exact corner where I'd seen the extra darkness. And tonight, when I went to tuck her in, I got a creepy feeling again. Weird.
So, usually around this time of year I get a letter from the Commonwealth of PA saying I'll soon be getting Ex's tax return. He's always so far in arears on his support that the state intercepts his tax return & gives it to me. Haha. I did get this letter this year, but there's a snag. It seems as he decided to file a joint return with his fiancee. I imagine this is because he hasn't worked in forever & she has. He's probably had almost no income this year. I'm guessing this because I haven't received a support payment since early October. Anyway, since they filed jointly, they won't take her money. She has 6 months to contest this interception, file paperwork to get back her part of the tax return & then they'll give me what's left. This sucks. He did find a clever little way to yet again get out of paying support, I'll give him that. We were thinking I"d get part of his shrub money*, too, but I probably won't now.
The thing I don't get is this. He runs around, making all these decisions for the kids like where they'll go to school, etc. Acts like he's father of the goddamn year. Acts like I'm some harpy shrew bitch who only wants to be as evil to him as possible, while he's the pooor, put upon dad who never gets to spend anytime with his kids. Yet he won't pay on thin dime for them. He took me to the support office 2x to get the order reduced. The 2nd time, when he thougt it was still too expensive, he contested it in front of a judge. All in all, he's supposed to pay about $250 a month. For kids he loves so much. And as of right now, he's about $1000 in arrears. Now, I understand he's in school. But as one of the judges told him, "school is a priviledge." Yes, it's all well & good that he's in school, but he doesn't seem to understand that school doesn't mean you get to put your support on hold. He did honestly think this, & he did honestly tell a judge that. This man told a counselor that the reason he can't get a job is because of me, when I worked 2nd shift. He felt that the kids must be with him at all times, if they weren't with me. This was his decision. But he blames me for it. And I can guarentee when we're before a judge again, he'll blame me for his not being able to get a job. That day is probably coming soon, because every so often I get notices saying he has to go to a contempt hearing & we're about due for another. And he'll probably be found in contempt & brought before a judge again.
I tell ya, I'm through with his decisions about school for the kids. They're going where I say, not where he wants. Actually, no. They're going where they want to go. He can get fucked.
Another tale of woe is my friend H. She's back in the hospital with cellulitis again. She got sick at work on Monday & called the doc. Her husband took her to the doc's office & the doc admitted her right to the hospital. She may have to be there for a week, getting IV abx. It sucks. I took Youngest to see her today & he was kinda scared at first. But he warmed up & watched part of the Wonderpets with her. "The brain...the brain is melting." That's one trippy show.
OK, I'm off to bed. I'll rant moar later.
So, usually around this time of year I get a letter from the Commonwealth of PA saying I'll soon be getting Ex's tax return. He's always so far in arears on his support that the state intercepts his tax return & gives it to me. Haha. I did get this letter this year, but there's a snag. It seems as he decided to file a joint return with his fiancee. I imagine this is because he hasn't worked in forever & she has. He's probably had almost no income this year. I'm guessing this because I haven't received a support payment since early October. Anyway, since they filed jointly, they won't take her money. She has 6 months to contest this interception, file paperwork to get back her part of the tax return & then they'll give me what's left. This sucks. He did find a clever little way to yet again get out of paying support, I'll give him that. We were thinking I"d get part of his shrub money*, too, but I probably won't now.
The thing I don't get is this. He runs around, making all these decisions for the kids like where they'll go to school, etc. Acts like he's father of the goddamn year. Acts like I'm some harpy shrew bitch who only wants to be as evil to him as possible, while he's the pooor, put upon dad who never gets to spend anytime with his kids. Yet he won't pay on thin dime for them. He took me to the support office 2x to get the order reduced. The 2nd time, when he thougt it was still too expensive, he contested it in front of a judge. All in all, he's supposed to pay about $250 a month. For kids he loves so much. And as of right now, he's about $1000 in arrears. Now, I understand he's in school. But as one of the judges told him, "school is a priviledge." Yes, it's all well & good that he's in school, but he doesn't seem to understand that school doesn't mean you get to put your support on hold. He did honestly think this, & he did honestly tell a judge that. This man told a counselor that the reason he can't get a job is because of me, when I worked 2nd shift. He felt that the kids must be with him at all times, if they weren't with me. This was his decision. But he blames me for it. And I can guarentee when we're before a judge again, he'll blame me for his not being able to get a job. That day is probably coming soon, because every so often I get notices saying he has to go to a contempt hearing & we're about due for another. And he'll probably be found in contempt & brought before a judge again.
I tell ya, I'm through with his decisions about school for the kids. They're going where I say, not where he wants. Actually, no. They're going where they want to go. He can get fucked.
Another tale of woe is my friend H. She's back in the hospital with cellulitis again. She got sick at work on Monday & called the doc. Her husband took her to the doc's office & the doc admitted her right to the hospital. She may have to be there for a week, getting IV abx. It sucks. I took Youngest to see her today & he was kinda scared at first. But he warmed up & watched part of the Wonderpets with her. "The brain...the brain is melting." That's one trippy show.
OK, I'm off to bed. I'll rant moar later.