Update.
Brian and Andrea are doing better than could be expected really. Saw them yesterday and Andrea was already out of the worst of the physical pain and just felt like her legs weren't her own.
What happened was that the baby just plain wasn't healthy enough. At 9 weeks or so it's heart slowed down and it stopped growing and I don't think they're sure when it died, so she chose to take a pill to force an abortion at 12 weeks. It was still at the 9 week size. It wasn't Andrea's body rejecting it or anything so it shouldn't effect future pregnancies thank fuck. And even if she'd been in constant medical care for the whole pregnancy they don't think there was anything anyone could have done. So I guess as far as truly awful and terrible things go it could have been worse.
It's a weird thing to deal with. I'd already bought a little cute outfit for it. I'd imagined this living being older and in my arms and in the outfit etc and now it's gone before it got started.
Hope Mum's ok, she obviously found it hard and I wanted to see her the day we found out, just to comfort her and hug her but she didn't want it. She cried most of the day and said that gave her strength so she can be there for Andrea,
Right now it seems like I barely know anyone I'm not worried about in some way. Well at least if January is this shit it can only get better throughout the course of the year. Gotta try and be optimistic at least.
What happened was that the baby just plain wasn't healthy enough. At 9 weeks or so it's heart slowed down and it stopped growing and I don't think they're sure when it died, so she chose to take a pill to force an abortion at 12 weeks. It was still at the 9 week size. It wasn't Andrea's body rejecting it or anything so it shouldn't effect future pregnancies thank fuck. And even if she'd been in constant medical care for the whole pregnancy they don't think there was anything anyone could have done. So I guess as far as truly awful and terrible things go it could have been worse.
It's a weird thing to deal with. I'd already bought a little cute outfit for it. I'd imagined this living being older and in my arms and in the outfit etc and now it's gone before it got started.
Hope Mum's ok, she obviously found it hard and I wanted to see her the day we found out, just to comfort her and hug her but she didn't want it. She cried most of the day and said that gave her strength so she can be there for Andrea,
Right now it seems like I barely know anyone I'm not worried about in some way. Well at least if January is this shit it can only get better throughout the course of the year. Gotta try and be optimistic at least.