Felt kinda depressed on Sunday

Apr 20, 2010 21:47

I sometimes get into these funks... The good thing is usually I just sleep it off and then I'm right as rain ( Read more... )

career, depression, dating, job, relationships

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damanique April 21 2010, 11:54:01 UTC
not like most men that seem to know exactly what to say and how to act to show their interest. One guy told me I should hit on a strip-club worker, just tell her how hot I think she is and how nice her body/boobs are and how badly I want to get into them.

LOL, that's not How To Flirt. That's How To Be A Douchebag.

Flirting isn't about knowing exactly what to say or how to act to get women into you. That's The Game. That's being a douche. That's saying things so you can get a women to do what you want, and that isn't a good basis for a relationship.

Real flirting is based on mutual attraction and interest, not manipulation from one side. It's knowing that the other person may like you too, it's making subtle hints, smiling, mimicking body language and sometimes a bit of innuendo.

It's not "I think your tits are great."

Trust me when I say that no woman likes to be complimented that way, unless they're getting paid for showing off their boobs (you know, like a stripper).

Also, you don't *have* to flirt and hit on women. You could just, y'know, talk. About hobbies and likes and dislikes, about past, present and future, about their jobs and dreams and everything. Women are like, entire people, with entire personalities.

At least this entry is an improvement for blaming the rest of the world for your problems. Taking responsibility for shit in your life and doing something about it makes you a much stronger person than just sitting around being pissed off at everyone and everything for not making your life easier.

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bigdoug April 21 2010, 21:04:47 UTC
Well that is problem #2 when it comes to me and women. I just do not know very many women NOT ON THE INTERNET that are single... I tend to have mostly male friends. Hence the idea of looking for local dates using dating sites or social networking. But A) I hate to go on dates when I'm broke and can barely afford to go to dinner/movies/other, I don't want to be a leech ("I'm glad we're on this date oh BTW I have no money you have to pick up the tab"). And B) I may not be able to use such dating sites due to certain constrictions on my life ATM, you know what I'm talking about.

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damanique April 21 2010, 21:40:18 UTC
I hear you, I'm from the generation and demographic that doesn't know how to pick people up in real life, either. XD And it does suck when you don't have much money. The other thing, too.

No singles bar in the area? I hear that's what people who aren't on the internet do to find new single people, or something.

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bigdoug April 21 2010, 23:21:05 UTC
I'd be too embarrassed to go to a singles bar.. if I knew of one. My mother has gone to a "single parent" group for meeting people, though, that's where she met her last boyfriend. Although I guess it wouldn't hurt to try a single's gathering out.

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