You need to do what feels right to you ... those feelings are strong and meaningful and difficult to ignore. I would say that if you don't feel any strong ties to your OB or if the negative emotional association you feel outweighs any bond you might have, maybe you should consider switching. A fresh start might help you heal.
I chose to delivery my child at a hospital that was at least 30 minutes further away from my home because the closer hospital is where I spent hours in an ER exam room bleeding all over myself as I miscarried my first. I just couldn't go back there with a baby in my belly for fear my term pregnancy would end the same.
Since then I've been seeing an LC at the closer hospital and it's been such a positive experience that it has completely redefined my feelings toward the hospital. Then again, it's also been over 5 years since my miscarriage, which I'm sure is a big part of it, too. But it took me that long to feel ok going back.
I left my first OB b/c she said I would probably need a c-section because of my weight. She also did a bunch of other stuff that kept reminding me of how fat I am. (Like I don't have mirrors in my house?!) I also had a hemorrhage at 18 weeks and while I am fine now, I could never go back to the hospital that it happened at, so I understand that whole bad memory thing. Hugs. XO
I've had doctors tell me that too about csection b/c of my weight. Even though I had one b/c of my blood pressure and I wasn't dialting, but I did find out that it's better for a bigger woman (well really any woman) to have a baby naturally.
To the OP: I'm sorry it happened and finding another OBGYN would prob. be the best thing to do. I was 330 when I got pregnant the first time around, lost that baby, then got pregnant three months later and was up to 385 at the end of my pregnancy. I am 330 now and pregnant again.
I think you have a perfectly valid reason for switching OBs. You want to feel comfortable with who you see, and appearently, you don't with your current one.
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I chose to delivery my child at a hospital that was at least 30 minutes further away from my home because the closer hospital is where I spent hours in an ER exam room bleeding all over myself as I miscarried my first. I just couldn't go back there with a baby in my belly for fear my term pregnancy would end the same.
Since then I've been seeing an LC at the closer hospital and it's been such a positive experience that it has completely redefined my feelings toward the hospital. Then again, it's also been over 5 years since my miscarriage, which I'm sure is a big part of it, too. But it took me that long to feel ok going back.
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To the OP: I'm sorry it happened and finding another OBGYN would prob. be the best thing to do. I was 330 when I got pregnant the first time around, lost that baby, then got pregnant three months later and was up to 385 at the end of my pregnancy. I am 330 now and pregnant again.
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Good Luck!
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