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From someone who gave me new ways of looking at things, who explained honesty and gave new meaning to the words "trust" and "promises", who doesn't know how much tax is added to the purchases she makes... THANK YOU. Everything's gonna be alright...
so before we get married we have relationships first
boyfriend and girlfriend
and ideally, they stick together and everything goes perfectly before the mariage
thats ideally
but people... they have questions they need answers too
there are things about themselves they have yet to discover
especially in our twenties
and its not our fault
growing pains
and put it this way... the reason why we have this trial period before marriage
you know boyfriend and girlfriend
is to really get to know each other, the good and the bad
because everyone has good and bad
sometimes unknown to ourselves we have bad
we get to know each other to see if we we're willign to spend the rest of our lives together
the trial period is not supposed to be perfect
it's where you bare yourseves to each other, the good, the bad, the ugly
better now than after the marriage
if she has questions that need answering, let her go in search of them , same as with you
you know why people go crazy? its when they're not honest with themselves
you have to allow people to be honest with themselves, say what they think, feel, without judging them
its better than hiding her feelings so she doesnt hurt you
im just saying, trial period ito. especially this loong distance. youll both see what you really want
so ayon... its not supposed to be perfect. and just the fact that youve forgiven i think you know that
she's a complex human being and not even she fully understands herself
you know, you and i are in similar relationships
i also want to marry @#$%
maybe in 5 years
but at the same time
right now, I am here
I owe myself this journey
and he has some questions that need answering too
rather than make promises were not even sure we can keep
it's better to loosen the reigns
i want to come face to face with who i am
discover who i am away from family friends and everyone ive ever known
because now is the time to do it
if i dont do it now, it will always call to me
i felt sotrapped
and misunderstood
and that he didnt really know who i was
that he was scared to know who i really was
like he didn't really hear me when i tried to talk to him
and eventually i went crazy
meaning
i was willing to scrap a loving relationship
just like that
he did not know who i was anymore
and i hid alot of myself from him
because he always put me down
we broke up
but after a few months, he started understanding
and basically gave me his blessing
to go and search for my answers
for the first time, he started to accept me. without judging me.
he LISTENED
and you know what? now i'm, happy with him, and i dont want anything else
i still want to search for answers
but the difference is, now I have his blessing
hes not a force trying to hold me back
siya pa nagsasabi sakin
"dont go back to manila even if i miss you"
because i want you to see whats there for you
before we said good byr, sabi ko sa kaniya
"i wont ask you for promises"
there will come a right time for promises
if you make it to that time, then good
if you dont make it, then neither of you will feel cheated because there was no promise
only memories of a beautiful relationship
but with this arrangement, we can only gain
walang mawawala saamin
if after 2 years we still want to be with each other, than i'll know for sure
because he let me search for answers
remember, sa LDR, commitment should be given willingly, not because it is promised
because sometimes you think only about the promises, and you forget what the relationship is all about
and you forget to listen to the other person
just remember, it's not supposed to be perfect. the sooner you let go of that, then youll really be able to communicate and see each other for what you are
and who you are.
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so before we get married we have relationships first
boyfriend and girlfriend
and ideally, they stick together and everything goes perfectly before the mariage
thats ideally
but people... they have questions they need answers too
there are things about themselves they have yet to discover
especially in our twenties
and its not our fault
growing pains
and put it this way... the reason why we have this trial period before marriage
you know boyfriend and girlfriend
is to really get to know each other, the good and the bad
because everyone has good and bad
sometimes unknown to ourselves we have bad
we get to know each other to see if we we're willign to spend the rest of our lives together
the trial period is not supposed to be perfect
it's where you bare yourseves to each other, the good, the bad, the ugly
better now than after the marriage
if she has questions that need answering, let her go in search of them , same as with you
you know why people go crazy? its when they're not honest with themselves
you have to allow people to be honest with themselves, say what they think, feel, without judging them
its better than hiding her feelings so she doesnt hurt you
im just saying, trial period ito. especially this loong distance. youll both see what you really want
so ayon... its not supposed to be perfect. and just the fact that youve forgiven i think you know that
she's a complex human being and not even she fully understands herself
you know, you and i are in similar relationships
i also want to marry @#$%
maybe in 5 years
but at the same time
right now, I am here
I owe myself this journey
and he has some questions that need answering too
rather than make promises were not even sure we can keep
it's better to loosen the reigns
i want to come face to face with who i am
discover who i am away from family friends and everyone ive ever known
because now is the time to do it
if i dont do it now, it will always call to me
i felt sotrapped
and misunderstood
and that he didnt really know who i was
that he was scared to know who i really was
like he didn't really hear me when i tried to talk to him
and eventually i went crazy
meaning
i was willing to scrap a loving relationship
just like that
he did not know who i was anymore
and i hid alot of myself from him
because he always put me down
we broke up
but after a few months, he started understanding
and basically gave me his blessing
to go and search for my answers
for the first time, he started to accept me. without judging me.
he LISTENED
and you know what? now i'm, happy with him, and i dont want anything else
i still want to search for answers
but the difference is, now I have his blessing
hes not a force trying to hold me back
siya pa nagsasabi sakin
"dont go back to manila even if i miss you"
because i want you to see whats there for you
before we said good byr, sabi ko sa kaniya
"i wont ask you for promises"
there will come a right time for promises
if you make it to that time, then good
if you dont make it, then neither of you will feel cheated because there was no promise
only memories of a beautiful relationship
but with this arrangement, we can only gain
walang mawawala saamin
if after 2 years we still want to be with each other, than i'll know for sure
because he let me search for answers
remember, sa LDR, commitment should be given willingly, not because it is promised
because sometimes you think only about the promises, and you forget what the relationship is all about
and you forget to listen to the other person
just remember, it's not supposed to be perfect. the sooner you let go of that, then youll really be able to communicate and see each other for what you are
and who you are.
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