Dumping Toxic Friends (signal boost)
One of my favourite blog sites is Paging Dr. Nerdlove, which would make better required reading for every adult and would-be adult on the planet than most of the world's printed works. Seriously, if you want to date, or have a relationship, or just improve your general relationship with yourself, there's good stuff there.
The site is specifically tailored to straight male geeks, but the advice goes far beyond that, both in terms of directly addressing other groups (women, gays, trans, yes, he's fielded questions from trans folk) and, most of all, in delivering the kind of observations that address broad problems and situations. I'm blissfully married and happily expect never to date anyone but my wife for the rest of my life, but I follow the blog daily and enjoy it. (It's also one of three sites on the web that I know of where the comment threads are safe zones where intelligent, supportive discussions can occur.)
Yesterday's column, Dump Your Toxic Friends, is one of the best yet. It's so spot-on and relevant that I wanted to rush out and share it with everyone. Seriously, this column deserves to be posted on the front page of the internet. It's one of those pieces of writing that you want to put into a time machine and send back to your younger self.
I can't think of anything more to say. Just go read it, all right? Unless you have never had a toxic friend in your entire life, in which case, read it anyway, you might yet.
(BTW, most of the pictures he uses for illustration have mouseover text. Check for it.)
The site is specifically tailored to straight male geeks, but the advice goes far beyond that, both in terms of directly addressing other groups (women, gays, trans, yes, he's fielded questions from trans folk) and, most of all, in delivering the kind of observations that address broad problems and situations. I'm blissfully married and happily expect never to date anyone but my wife for the rest of my life, but I follow the blog daily and enjoy it. (It's also one of three sites on the web that I know of where the comment threads are safe zones where intelligent, supportive discussions can occur.)
Yesterday's column, Dump Your Toxic Friends, is one of the best yet. It's so spot-on and relevant that I wanted to rush out and share it with everyone. Seriously, this column deserves to be posted on the front page of the internet. It's one of those pieces of writing that you want to put into a time machine and send back to your younger self.
I can't think of anything more to say. Just go read it, all right? Unless you have never had a toxic friend in your entire life, in which case, read it anyway, you might yet.
(BTW, most of the pictures he uses for illustration have mouseover text. Check for it.)