when will enough BE enough?

Jan 08, 2006 21:59

i apologize ahead of time for such a long entry. But remember, don't read if you don't got the patience!

Well good news, this weekend i got the courage to weigh myself and i lost a whole 6lbs.
i'm pretty exciting knowing the fact that my whole working out after the holidays is actually paying off.
i'm not sure what weight i really want to be at but i feel really good with myself right now and i'm gonna keep at it.
i want to be in better shape, not for anyone though, just for myself.
It's nice being at home and having someone to work out with....a.k.a the boyfriend.
He's been really nice and complimenting me a lot lately, more than usual.
It feels really nice knowing someone notices you and let's you know.
Even though he doesn't do it everyday or all the time, the times he does, makes me feel ten times better because i know he notices me but i'm not the type of person that needs to hear it all the time.

Last night i went over to our friend's place and watched the Pats game along with another couple that we are friends with.
Both couples are of course married but no kids.
Apparently last night, one of the couples got into an argument and it continued onto today to where it just ended on a bad note.
i feel bad for the wife, we'll call her Carrie, because i went over to her house again for a get together for this "Pampered Chef" party, where someone shows you different kitchen utensils and tools...and she was just a mess.
i was only there because Carrie asked me to go and i like hanging out with her.
i didn't buy anything because i don't own a house, married, or know how to really cook just yet.
i got some great fundraising ideas tho.
Anyways, she told me that they fought right before everyone got there and what made things worse for her was that she invited this other woman, we'll call her Kelly, to come to the party but the thing is, she knows that her husband is infatuated with Kelly and Carrie is so jealous of her.
Carrie's husband works with Kelly and Kelly has a bad reputation.
She was found cheating on her husband of 8 years with a supervisor and is now going through a divorce.
Carrie is so jealous of her only because she believes this woman is very attractive, i disagree.
The only reason why Carrie invited Kelly over was because Kelly has no friends because of her scandal and Carrie thought she would be nice, even though knowing the fact that her husband is so infatuated with her.
i don't blame Carrie for trying to be nice, but i dunno if i would invite the girl over.
As of right now, Carrie told her husband to move into the spare bedroom that they have, that me and Jonathan usually sleep in when we stay over.
She said that they will probably be separated for a lil bit until they can figure things out.
They've been together for 12 years.

i guess the reason of my story is that, after 12 years of being together, when do you know enough is enough?
How do you know that this argument is nothing big compared to one that might be bigger?
How do you know when to end things and when to really try to work at it?
i've been told today to just not get married until after 25...which i do plan to..maybe 26 or 27.
But with everyone that i talked to today was either separated or getting a divorce.

My parents are fighting right now, and that's why i've been getting out of the house.
Today just seemed like a bad day for relationship stories.
Of course i was the only one there at the party that wasn't married but still, when i hear stories of other people, i can't help but get scared that my life might end up like that.
Too many people are getting married for the hell of getting married and no one takes it serious anymore.
When i look at marriage, i look at it as a special and sacred thing.
Now people are just getting divorced like it's their effin job.
i see my parents together and 97% of the time they are just so happy together and they've been together for about 30 years.
My mom was only 16 when she married my dad and the funny part was that she had no choice, they were arranged to be married.
Both of their parents arranged for the two to get married and at the time my mom had a boyfriend.
We still have a picture of him in our old family albums, and may i add thanks to my grandparents because i would have been an UGLY child if she had stuck with him.
My dad finds it funny, he doesn't care about the picture.
My mother on the other hand doesn't care but gets embarrassed when my father points him out to my brother and i all the time. LOL!
i know that this stupid fight my parents have will just go over and they'll just be back to normal again.
But with my friend Carrie, i hope this doesn't mean the end because i know they've had problems but nothing too serious.
i have a feeling they will reconciliate(is that the word? or EVEN a word?) with each other.
So when will enough BE enough?
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