people demonize spanking because of classism / how corporeal punishment damaged me

[belenen]

icon: "honesty (a photo of me in soft sunlight, gazing directly into the camera with a somber expression)"If you were spanked as a kid, you have to accept it as morally OK in order to be able to cope with it. Growing up, you are told that you are spanked because you are loved, that this is intended to help you become a better person, that this is

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[queerbychoice]

My parents spanked me a few times, lightly, without any disrobing involved, up until I was four years old. I have only a very vague memory of being spanked. What I do remember more clearly is that when I was four years old, they sat me down and told me that they had decided that spanking was wrong, and they were wrong to have done it, and they had decided that they weren't ever going to do it anymore. And they didn't ever do it again. Which means they didn't ever do it at all to my younger brother, who was a newborn infant at the time they decided this.

It made a very, very positive impression on me, even though I was only four years old, to see that my parents thought about what was right and wrong and were able to decide that they'd done something wrong and admit to me that they'd done something wrong and resolve not to do it anymore.

[raidingparty]

Yeah, that's huge!
How did that change your opinion or view about them?

[queerbychoice]

Well, I was too young at the time for there to be a clear difference between before and after. But in later years when I looked back on it, it made me feel very secure in the knowledge that they were good and trustworthy people.

[zimtkeks]

I was physically and psychologically abused by my mother, and I knew that it was wrong, even when I was very young. That made it extremely hard for me to endure, because the unfairness and wrongness was added to the pain I was feeling already. I used to imagine that kids who don't know how awfully their parents are messing up must have it a lot easier. I'm not so sure about that today.

Also, I'm very sorry you had to go through that.