essential qualities to be a good cuddler: good at consent, emotionally present & aware, not in need

[belenen]

icon: "woven souls (a photo of me and Hannah laying nude on black fabric, holding hands and facing each other with legs intertwined at the knee. the photo is overlaid with a scarlet and violet color filter)"The qualities that are most vital are being good at consent, being good at staying emotionally present, and not radiating need. Consent is

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[wanderipity]

I made my boyfriend read this. Wow.

[strong_delicate]

I'm just now starting to read your journal but have you ever participated in cuddle parties? I've read articles about how a group of consenting individuals will meet up with comfy blankets, pillows, pjs or whatever and snuggle and cuddle. People are so disconnected these days that they are yearning for intimacy like this.

Also, as a counselor i can see a professional cuddler being useful to help someone suffering from trauma especially physical/sexual trauma. When a person goes through something difficult they lose all faith and have trouble comforting themselves. Knowing that they could go to a safe person for intimacy like this would be very, very healing.

[untiltimeends]

I love sex, but honestly I'd pick a good cuddle session over sex probably 60 percent of the time if it were entirely up to me.

I really, really love this entry.

[hardigrin]

Love how you broke this down. Any company that doesn't snap up how thoughtful and wonderful this is is probably not somewhere you'd be comfortable working anyhow.

Also so happy to get your words again. Bah, school!

[meri_sielu]

This is a very, very lovely entry. Just wow. <3