Touch: the kinds of hugs, kisses, and cuddles that I love

[belenen]

I really love hugs. Before Topaz I rarely got good ones: either they squished my (very sensitive) breasts or they were loose and impersonal or even worse they were perfunctory pretend-closeness and came with the 'pat-pat' (BLUGHHHH, gross gross gross). But now I've both gotten spoiled and learned to hug better: full-body gentle pressing-close

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[kiwi]

I'm a funny opposite - I'm a little wary of touch. I've always considered it part of my upbringing (culturally) and I go through phases where I'm better and it's certainly something I work on, but in general it takes me a bit to get comfortable with even hugging someone. I'm afraid to initiate touch a lot.

But...kisses on the neck are, like, my kryptonite. Having my forearms pet will put me to sleep and light to medium touching of my lower back will always always always turn me on. I've had partners who took advantage of that on more than one occasion...anything from light feather touches with fingertips (against skin, always) to a firm hand pressing against it. Done. I'm done. It's TERRIBLE, lol.

I've had more than one terrible hug, like what you described - I call them half-assed hugs and they anger me to no end. Mostly because, I think, I'm not the most physically affectionate person on earth so if I'm going to hug you, I'm going to do it properly, dammit. If you're going to hug someone, do it like you mean it. The one armed "pat-pat" hugs? WHY DID YOU BOTHER HUGGING ME? Despite my wariness, though, I actually do like hugs a good deal.

[belenen]

I also have a fear of initiating touch unless I have both discussed it with the person and done it a few times. Even if I know they are super cuddly and they have told me they would like touch from me, it takes a bit for me to get comfortable with it.

I feel the same way about my lower back! also the inside of my wrists. But I don't like to have them touched unless I'm already being sexual.

I KNOW why on earth would you blaspheme a hug like that!!! heh.