my changing desires/priorities regarding sex and romantic relationships / how do you flirt?

[belenen]

Comments

[frecklestars]

I find flirting confusing as a concept. I've been told that I'm a flirt, but I don't think of what I'm doing half the time as flirting; I just like getting close to people, cuddling, half smiling, etc. In any case, I agree with you, that it seems bizarre to flirt with someone you have no interest in.

Trying to put my finger on how I flirt...I smile. I laugh, a lot. I'm usually thinking about the person a fair amount, which is obviously not visible to others, but yeah. Hrm. This is something to think about, for sure.

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[girlslovegirls7]

i love flirting. Its not just a sexual goal for me though. i like to complement people and bring them out of theyre box alittle because its always truely interesting who they are. sometimes people trust better once they think you are attracted to them. But i also like flirting because im attracted to people.

[camilleyun]

I don't flirt.
I may say something that sounds flirty to someone I'm interested in over the phone but beyond that, I'm not a flirt.
I'm uncomfortable with heavy flirtation and much more comfortable with wit and sarcasm.

[queerbychoice]

I think flirting implies some degree of attraction to someone, but I don't think any degree of attraction to someone implies that you'd ever consider having sex with that person. There are too many reasons why sex between two particular people might seem clearly not a good idea, regardless of attraction. People can have a whole lot of emotional and/or moral issues that would stop them from having sex, but that would not stop them from feeling attracted.

[belenen]

you just put your finger on something that was bugging me about how I phrased things. Experiencing sexual attraction is a much better way of putting it, I'm gonna edit now ;-)

[musicandmisery]

Let my joys be outlined with pain; it makes them stand out more.

I agree with and live by this, too. Brilliant, Bel. ♥