The most important label is the one you give yourself.

[bekitty]

I was thinking about this post that tatjna did about the labels that other people give you, and came to the conclusion in the title of this post

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[anonymous]

Yeah, I think the crucial thing is to go with what'll be true to your actual experience. Even though in some cases what will be true in one light will be false in another. As an example you might find it true to your experience to identify as "disabled" because you have one leg, even though you feel more able-bodied (fitter, healthier, faster) than people you'd identify as "not disabled" (having the correct number and type of body parts). But it would also suit to identify as "disabled" for political reasons - disabled people's rights etc.

As a couple of side-notes, I think coming out can be a can of worms. If people aren't able to come out, this is advantageous to the homophobic corners of society, but said corners can work it to their advantage in having coming out a kind of compulsory thing. Of course, coming out isn't really a binary - he's in, he's out. You come out to these people, not to those people, at this time, not at that time, etc... and applies to all sorts of closetings, not just sexual - eg I keep my atheism in the closet when dealing with my uncle's parish...

Andrew.