My grandpa is dying. My sister called me yesterday morning to ask if I wanted to come with her to the hospital. As Mom was not in town, Natalie and I were the only family here
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I could feel your hugs, Austin. Sorry for the tardiness of my reply. Thank you so much for always caring.
I'm kind of sorry, also, to know that my mom isn't going to have a funeral for my grandpa for years. She says she's going to hold onto the ashes until our whole extended family can attend a funeral -- there are only three of us here in Canada. But somehow I know that day may never come, and my grandfather's ashes may not get a proper burial. Can I ask you a question? I know the strength of religion for you, is it wrong in the Bible to wait that long to bury a loved one? I'm struggling to be spiritual and I wonder about his soul. I'm grateful that he's no longer feeling so much pain, even through the hole he left when he died. I want to make sure he can now rest in peace.
I think there is a law in Torah which gives stipulations on burying the dead but I believe it's one of the laws which is only still followed by strictly Orthodox Jews.
I personally don't believe that burial really has a spiritual effect. I can't say with 100% certainty what the Church's stance on burial is, but I believe that once the soul has left the body it's all in God's hands.
Don't worry, I'm sure your grandfather is at peace.
And I'm thrilled that you're trying to find a spirituality.
Thank you, honey. It helped me to know that hugs from you were there. With the strength of someone amazing like you helping me along, it helps me get over knowing he's gone, day by day. <3
Ohhh. Elise. *sighs* I had to say goodbye to my grandpa almost a year ago, now, and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I struggled so long with it - it just wasn't fair - and there were some things I said to him that I'm glad I said, like "I love you," and shared laughter. And then there are the things I still wish I'd said, like, "I admire you," and so much more that now I won't have the chance to say. So..I've been there. I watched my grandpa, this big man who was larger than life, shrink and fade away, but I count myself blessed because he knew me, in the end, he held me close and we had a few moments that I'll always treasure. I so...I so wish you could have had that with your grandfather. I'm so, so sorry this is happening. But it sounds like he isn't in a good place in his life anymore, and at least this way, he won't have to suffer anymore
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Your new username is so beautiful. It is fitting to belong to a soul like you. Thank you for your hugs and prayers. I carried them with me when he did die a day or two later, and they help me now to cope with that loss. Thank you for caring, you're wonderful. And I'm so sorry to hear you went through the same thing. But I'm grateful that, for both of us, it's over. Goodbye seems to be letting go of panic more and more, as time passes.
thank you for the nice comment. and, i'm so glad that in some way, something i said may have helped you. you're in my thoughts from time to time when you're away from lj; i think of you and wish you well. i want you to k now that.
time will help. it won't heal you entirely, but the loss will get a little easier to accept, the burden a little lighter. just, oh, just keep your eyes wide open and appreciate every moment you have with those that you love!
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I know that nothing can make things better for you right now. I hope that he knows that you were there.
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I'm kind of sorry, also, to know that my mom isn't going to have a funeral for my grandpa for years. She says she's going to hold onto the ashes until our whole extended family can attend a funeral -- there are only three of us here in Canada. But somehow I know that day may never come, and my grandfather's ashes may not get a proper burial. Can I ask you a question? I know the strength of religion for you, is it wrong in the Bible to wait that long to bury a loved one? I'm struggling to be spiritual and I wonder about his soul. I'm grateful that he's no longer feeling so much pain, even through the hole he left when he died. I want to make sure he can now rest in peace.
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I personally don't believe that burial really has a spiritual effect. I can't say with 100% certainty what the Church's stance on burial is, but I believe that once the soul has left the body it's all in God's hands.
Don't worry, I'm sure your grandfather is at peace.
And I'm thrilled that you're trying to find a spirituality.
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Dear Marie...
Your new username is so beautiful. It is fitting to belong to a soul like you. Thank you for your hugs and prayers. I carried them with me when he did die a day or two later, and they help me now to cope with that loss. Thank you for caring, you're wonderful. And I'm so sorry to hear you went through the same thing. But I'm grateful that, for both of us, it's over. Goodbye seems to be letting go of panic more and more, as time passes.
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thank you for the nice comment. and, i'm so glad that in some way, something i said may have helped you. you're in my thoughts from time to time when you're away from lj; i think of you and wish you well. i want you to k now that.
time will help. it won't heal you entirely, but the loss will get a little easier to accept, the burden a little lighter. just, oh, just keep your eyes wide open and appreciate every moment you have with those that you love!
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