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Apr 18, 2009 09:27

Disclaimer - the arguments contained herein are meant for no one individual in particular, but culled from responses I received from this post - both on this site and in various conversations ( Read more... )

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chord April 19 2009, 01:58:19 UTC
I'm wondering something... I wonder if it's something like wanting to dwell in a bit of a past moment. I've felt this way today as I was walking around Rogers Park in the cooling evening ( ... )

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beatnik_bttrfly April 19 2009, 03:51:29 UTC
I love you man.

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beatnik_bttrfly April 19 2009, 03:56:54 UTC
That said, I have a constant internal backlash against the attitude of "feminism is over, the bitches won, everyone is equal so go about your business" that pushes me to rationalize most things through that lens. Which, I think can be helpful and hurtful in equal parts. That is, I don't think it's completely out of bounds for me to think it's at least somewhat a gender thing. Point of fact, M. grew up in an extremely masculine family - really, his dad's family was his main family and there were really mostly men and they vacationed together while the womenfolk went shopping and suchnot so, there's that as well...

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chord April 19 2009, 22:40:57 UTC
I guess then would you rather he not go at all if you didn't go?

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beatnik_bttrfly April 21 2009, 12:33:56 UTC
Did I say that? No, I happen to think that he's a bit more enlightened as gender relations go than most of his family and friends. But the fact remains that he still has this group of family and friends and their place in his life is far more important than their stance on gender equity. But it's still important to me and I would like him to be aware of that.

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