Being that I came to America AND came out of the closet in 1996, the end of this year makes me very reflective as to what the whole thing about boys and love and relationships is about. This year has been punctuated with awsome things and bad things and weird things and maybe a thing or two that may have been better left unsaid ( Read more... )

So I was watching episode 6 of 'Weeds' (BTW, what a great show...really really good) and there's this scene at the end when Mary-Louise Parker is watching this video of herself and her late husband making love. The whole episode has this backstory of sex, but it's all about trying to make a connection and it just sort of hit me ( Read more... )

So, remember the stuff I was writing about crushes? Well, lemme tell ya, I think I'm going through the hard part, which is fine, I already know how the movie ends. Still...right now I feel like I'm watching some M. Knight Shimalayan film and thinking, 'OK, we get it...now move the fucking plot ALONG.' I wish my life had a TIVO sometimes ( Read more... )

I have a super secret confession to make.

I'm 34 years old and I had a crush on someone.(BTW, let's get it out of the way right now: I am NOT telling you who it is. The object of the crush is no longer important. OK, that didn't sound right. He IS important and a good person and all that, but what is important in this story is what I've ( Read more... )

I was listening to a song (again, because I heard it live for the first time live the other day) by Death Cab for Cutie called 'I will follow you into the dark' and it got me thinking about all the relationships I've had and all the different scenarios and permutations I've been through. I think at this point in my life, I look at my friends and ( Read more... )

A friend of mine asked me how can I possibly just say that someone is not the right one for me without giving them a chance. I don't really know...all I can say is that I know what it feels like to lie in the arms of someone and discover that you have been looking for something and you won't find it there. You know on some level that no, this isn' ( Read more... )

In your humble opinions, what is the difference between positive self-esteem and arrogance?

Just wondering.

This is an idea my best friend John had when we were talking about my previous sexual and romantic history ( Read more... )

In talking to my friend Sharon I sort of realized how easy and simple it is to talk to someone that actually wants to talk to you. It occurred to me that maybe I try too hard. I try too hard to sound cool or 'with it' or current or whatever it is that I think other, better looking, cooler people are and I'm not. I try too hard to get others to ( Read more... )

So...I had this thing happen and it made me think. Here’s what happened ( Read more... )