Kyra Sedgwick is the Closure
I needed some closure from the abrupt breakup with Lori, so her and I got together and talked last night. Since it happened on Tuesday night, I thought a lot about what she said about it all and thought I had a different perspective on the matter. I thought that since she had a couple of bad relationships in the past, it was coloring her view. I thought that she was predisposed to ending a relationship too quickly once normal problems arose, and that she took too much of a negative view on relationship issues, maybe with objectivity she would reconsider.
She only partially agreed, but stated the truth was that she thought we were just on a “different wavelength” and admitted she was hampered by having major self-esteem issues. She flat out said, “I need to learn to love myself before I can love someone else.” I told her I did not understand this as I had no problems seeing all the good and positive things in her.
It did all end on a good note and with mutual respect. I spoke to my mom about it this morning and she asked if there was a door open in the future and I said maybe, but I am certainly not going to hold by breath. Anyway, Lori is a very good person and I am very sad this whole thing happened. However, it is good for me to know that I did not give up and just let it go without at least trying. I could not have lived if I hadn’t been sure there was nothing I could have done to stay with a person as great as her. As painful as a relationship is, at least some closure helps.
She only partially agreed, but stated the truth was that she thought we were just on a “different wavelength” and admitted she was hampered by having major self-esteem issues. She flat out said, “I need to learn to love myself before I can love someone else.” I told her I did not understand this as I had no problems seeing all the good and positive things in her.
It did all end on a good note and with mutual respect. I spoke to my mom about it this morning and she asked if there was a door open in the future and I said maybe, but I am certainly not going to hold by breath. Anyway, Lori is a very good person and I am very sad this whole thing happened. However, it is good for me to know that I did not give up and just let it go without at least trying. I could not have lived if I hadn’t been sure there was nothing I could have done to stay with a person as great as her. As painful as a relationship is, at least some closure helps.