Frustration and truth

[banzai]

A recent failure with Remember The Milk's ability to create tasks from labels in Gmail has gummed up both my email inbox and my usual methods of staying on top of my tasks. Ultimately not a big deal; just frustrating to be so easily thrown for a mini-loop. Mostly, it's me throwing a low-level tantrum that things don't work the way I want them to.

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[ext_132043]

This was interesting! I think it's good for us to think about, why we get upset. I think probably we never really grow out of what triggers tantrums. I look at my kids when they're tantruming and think "that is me, those are my feelings when I don't get what I want, I just have learned to be a little more socially acceptable in expressing them."

What do you think about these tantrums stemming from the fact that we don't have grace towards ourselves? A benevolant father says to a kid who screwed up "it's okay honey." We tell ourselves "you idiot, you screwed it up again" and then we feel ashamed and we tantrum. If we don't have this grace towards ourselves then we can't have it towards others either.

I just thought I'd share my thoughts on it.

[banzai]

I'm of two minds on "grace towards ourselves" (which mind is dominant likely depends on when I'm asked). They're actually connected thoughts rather than opposing ones, though, and they seem to be (at least in part) in line with your thoughts