Harebrained Schemes (or lack thereof)
Sometimes I think my iPod is trying to tell me something. I couldn't count how many times I've heard the same song multiple days in a row, even though I'm shuffling through a shade over 10,000 songs. When I keep hearing the same song, I usually tend to take notice of the song and try to see if it applies to life in some way. A few weeks ago, on a day that it rained a lot, I swear I heard the "Song of Storms" from Legend of Zelda at least twice. Earlier this week, I was kind of in a down mood, and I heard three different versions of the song "Across the Universe" in the same trip to work, and then again the next day. Something about the chanting of "Nothing's gonna change my world" just hit me while I was thinking about the big change I was making from one job to another.
Anyway, three times last week I heard the song "Harebrained Scheme" by Freezepop. Normally when Freezepop comes on, I get into it because it's just fun, dancy synth pop music. Hearing it multiple times, though, got me thinking about the lyrics. Freezepop is known for fairly simple lyrical content, but it's always something fitting. This song, simply, is about how she has two friends, a girl and a guy, and how "they should be friends, if you know what I mean." It goes on to say how she's concerned for them, and knows they've been hurt before, but being alone is no way to be, so she took it upon herself to set them up (which she refers to as her harebrained scheme, hence the song title).
This all stood out to me because it actually has absolutely no similarity to my life. It is something that has never happened. I'm always pretty vocal about how movies and TV are nothing like reality, so when people in the fictional media are set up on blind dates, or even just hooked up through friends, I always just dismiss it as something that doesn't happen in reality (just like the vast majority of love stories). What is odd, though, is that this is apparently such a common occurrence, even in reality. My guess is that none of my friends see a potential match for me in any of their friends. I always hear the ultra-vague "you'll find someone... someday," but never a "hey, haaaaave you met...?" except in jest.
The obvious answer to this query is that, quite obviously, all the good ones are taken. If I'm such an awesome guy, nobody will want to set me up with someone not good enough for me, and if they are good enough for Ronnie, they probably found someone better already. Honestly, in my own research, I've found it to be true. Almost every girl I meet through friends, be it at conventions, at the clubs, etc., if she seems interesting to me, I find out her boyfriend is apparently just as interesting.
What makes this whole thing sting just a bit more, I have, in the past, had friends who were, in fact, set up, or somehow stumbled into a date, and before I could even place the idea of "hey, does she have a friend?," it ends badly, essentially cutting the one tie to any potential new people to meet. Another big obstacle, even today, is that it seems a lot of my friends tend to make enemies, or at least are not on the good side, of other friends, so if ever Hell were to freeze over and I'd find a girl on one front, I'd likely be ostracized by someone else. I know most of my friends don't care either way, but there is that constant fear, really.
It actually kind of sucks when I'm sitting with friends who, for some reason or another, just do not like someone else in my circle of friends. I'm generally pretty easy to get along with, and I get along with a wide group of people. I don't care if I've heard all types of horrible stories about someone. If they are fun to be with, I'll hang out with them. I've united bitter enemies in the same room, all in the sake of the party. Leave the room and hate each other again, but seriously, nothing should stand in the way of a good time. If you want to make it awkward, I will happily escort you out.
So to finish this up, and try to stay positive, have any of you ever been "set up" before, and if so, how did that go?
Anyway, three times last week I heard the song "Harebrained Scheme" by Freezepop. Normally when Freezepop comes on, I get into it because it's just fun, dancy synth pop music. Hearing it multiple times, though, got me thinking about the lyrics. Freezepop is known for fairly simple lyrical content, but it's always something fitting. This song, simply, is about how she has two friends, a girl and a guy, and how "they should be friends, if you know what I mean." It goes on to say how she's concerned for them, and knows they've been hurt before, but being alone is no way to be, so she took it upon herself to set them up (which she refers to as her harebrained scheme, hence the song title).
This all stood out to me because it actually has absolutely no similarity to my life. It is something that has never happened. I'm always pretty vocal about how movies and TV are nothing like reality, so when people in the fictional media are set up on blind dates, or even just hooked up through friends, I always just dismiss it as something that doesn't happen in reality (just like the vast majority of love stories). What is odd, though, is that this is apparently such a common occurrence, even in reality. My guess is that none of my friends see a potential match for me in any of their friends. I always hear the ultra-vague "you'll find someone... someday," but never a "hey, haaaaave you met...?" except in jest.
The obvious answer to this query is that, quite obviously, all the good ones are taken. If I'm such an awesome guy, nobody will want to set me up with someone not good enough for me, and if they are good enough for Ronnie, they probably found someone better already. Honestly, in my own research, I've found it to be true. Almost every girl I meet through friends, be it at conventions, at the clubs, etc., if she seems interesting to me, I find out her boyfriend is apparently just as interesting.
What makes this whole thing sting just a bit more, I have, in the past, had friends who were, in fact, set up, or somehow stumbled into a date, and before I could even place the idea of "hey, does she have a friend?," it ends badly, essentially cutting the one tie to any potential new people to meet. Another big obstacle, even today, is that it seems a lot of my friends tend to make enemies, or at least are not on the good side, of other friends, so if ever Hell were to freeze over and I'd find a girl on one front, I'd likely be ostracized by someone else. I know most of my friends don't care either way, but there is that constant fear, really.
It actually kind of sucks when I'm sitting with friends who, for some reason or another, just do not like someone else in my circle of friends. I'm generally pretty easy to get along with, and I get along with a wide group of people. I don't care if I've heard all types of horrible stories about someone. If they are fun to be with, I'll hang out with them. I've united bitter enemies in the same room, all in the sake of the party. Leave the room and hate each other again, but seriously, nothing should stand in the way of a good time. If you want to make it awkward, I will happily escort you out.
So to finish this up, and try to stay positive, have any of you ever been "set up" before, and if so, how did that go?