Black Women and Interracial Dating Blogs

[bana05]

My friend spent the weekend with me and she's a PR person, so we talked about what I needed to do as an author to get my name out there more.  She suggested I find sites and blogs that talk about interracial relationships and comment while leaving a link to where they could find my books.  And I did some searching this afternoon, but few of these

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[bana05]

even though I've sworn off American white guys, but that has more to do with unexamined privilege than race

Some examples.

Maybe it's easier for black women to "call out" black men on it since we're supposed to be in it together, but white men are considered more "neutral" or something, I don't know. But then you remind yourself white men are at the top of this whole hierarchical structure so why do they get a pass but black men don't? And I get more about why black men don't date black women, too, but I don't think most black men think that way or even most black men aren't worth crap.

[bana05]

We're taught from such an early age that white people are varied and brown folks are monolithic, I'm sure that has a large part to do with it-- the internalization of that standard.

Exactly this, and I guess that's what's bothering me about these blogs, the reinforcement of that thought process; and honestly, I don't get it. Because you're going to run into a situation when the privilege is stark and showing, and oy. We gon' have to have some discussions!

And I agree with you, some of my most insightful conversations about race have been with people not American (regardless of race, and then nonwhite).

[bana05]

That's good! I would hope men would give us women more credit; you're more than just your length, you know!

[box_in_the_box]

I've sworn off American white guys, but that has more to do with unexamined privilege than race

Speaking as an American white guy? I don't blame you one bit. :(

I'm pretty clueless, and even I have been stunned by the overt racism I've seen from my brethren, especially in the wake of Obama's election supposedly "proving" that "race doesn't matter" in America any longer (in other words, "I voted for a black guy, so stop pointing out my privilege").