Black Women and Interracial Dating Blogs

[bana05]

My friend spent the weekend with me and she's a PR person, so we talked about what I needed to do as an author to get my name out there more.  She suggested I find sites and blogs that talk about interracial relationships and comment while leaving a link to where they could find my books.  And I did some searching this afternoon, but few of these sites were advocating what I think I do.  Many of these blogs seem to denigrate black men while at the same time championing black women to expand their options.  I didn't know "expansion" meant "cut out black men from the equation".  And as someone who has daddy issues and father-figure issues for days, there's something truly beautiful seeing a black man doing the do with a black woman, because if you listen to the articles and the blogs and the daytime television, the only black men worth a damn don't give a damn about black women.  I find that incredibly false.  I know too many black men doing the do and having black women on their arms wearing their rings while doing it; and these black women in return are doing the do as well.  Why is it necessary to tear down one group of men to "justify" why someone should look to another.  Yes, I write books about interracial relationships, but the only time I denigrate a black man is if he deserves it, not just because "he's black, which means he automatically thinks x."  Then it gets into that "preference" thing.  I want a good man who treats me with respect is funny and smart, and if he's attractive I wouldn't be upset about it.  He doesn't have to be black, but he doesn't have to be white, either.  He doesn't have to be Asian, he doesn't have to be Native, he doesn't have to be American (although that would probably make my life easier).  The difference between preference and prejudice is that you prefer one thing, but you don't outright dismiss another.  And I also find some of these blogs hypocritical.  They complain about black men spreading rumors and "not defending/warning" black women about bad black men, but they turn around and use the same thing with switched up pronouns.

And even funnier, my family is "concerned" that I write about IR relationships, when in actuality most of my crushes have been on men of color.  Heh.