Hi
I'm hurt because Shailesh once again put me down. He told me I'm out of touch with reality, dumb and nothing more than a maid. At first he called me a slave and then dad told him the things I do and then he called me a servant and then dad convinced him I was more than that. Instead of trying to understand why I am more than my wifely duties he calls me a maid. Shailesh has no respect for me as an adult but as a brother he does. There's a reason why he doesn't understand me and it's the beliefs he was raised with as a child. He was taught a woman does the cooking and cleaning and the husband goes to work. I agree with that and yet he doesn't see why I do. He should know I have changed a lot over the years not just externally but internally as well. I'm not the anxious and irresponsible person I used to be. Now I'm a feminine Indian and he needs to realize that in order for us to understand each other. I know him pretty well. I know what irritates him and what pisses him off. He tells me and I listen. His problem is he doesn't listen to me. At the end of the argument we were calm and started talking about what I did and he explained I shouldn't talk about Erin with my dad's family at all. All I said to my cousin (Sonam) whom has known about Erin for a while now was Shailesh isn't ready to discuss his girlfriend with her family and he will when the time is right. I knew Shailesh doesn't like it when dad's family learns anything about his personal life so I did what I felt would be respectful towards him. Besides, Shailesh knew chaachi (Renuka) and her family knew about Erin. I felt it would be ok if he talked to just her for an hour. He could talk to her in her room and tell her to keep it a secret. It's really not that big of a deal but I respect Shailesh and don't want to lose his trust. So I won't say anything else and I don't want Erin to be mad at me either.
