I don't think you can get a self-contained ecosystem going in a vodka bottle.
SO HEY. Here's something I've been planning to do since around the dawn of time and have actually been working at on and off for a good few months. It's (going to be) an exhaustive lexicon of queer stuff and other things I think should be in here. Obviously, it's nowhere near done, but I think it's finally polished enough to let you all have a look.
So, without further ado, I bring you:
Ian Ridley's
Complete
Romanticosexudiversifying
Genderucational
Spectranomicon
Ace - noun/adjective
Slang
Shortened or deminuitive form of asexual.
See also: asexual
AFAB - adjective
Acronym
Assigned female at birth.
See also: gender of rearing
Agender - adjective
From the prefix a-, meaning not.
1. Without a gender-related sense of identity.
2. Identifying specifically as genderless.
See also: androgyne, gynandroid, neutrois
AMAB - adjective
Acronym
Assigned male at birth.
See also: gender of rearing
Ambisextrous - adjective
Pun on ambidextrous
Equally interested in either sex.
See also: amphigenic invert, bisexual
Amphigenic Invert - noun
Antiquated
An individual who is equally attracted to both the same and the opposite sex.
See also: ambisextrous, bisexual
Amphisexual - noun/adjective
From amphi-, meaning both
Synonym for bisexual.
Androgyne - noun
1. An individual whose gender identity and/or physical sex is not readily apparent.
2. An individual who identifies as gender neutral or as inbetween male and female.
See also: agender, genderqueer, gynandroid, neutrois
Androphilic - adjective
From andro-, meaning man.
Attracted to men.
Related forms: androphile, androphilia
Anthrosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From the prefix anthro-, for human.
1. Sexually attracted to people on an individual basis without regard to gender or physical traits.
2. An individual whose sexual attraction functions on this basis.
Related forms: anthrosexuality, anthrosexualism
Aromantic - noun/adjective
From the prefix a-, meaning not.
1. Not experiencing romantic love.
2. An individual who does not experience romantic love.
Related forms: aromance, aromanticism
Asexual - noun/adjective
From the prefix a-, meaning not.
1. Not experiencing sexual attraction.
2. An individual who does not experience sexual attraction.
Related forms: asexuality, asexualism
Asexy - adjective
Slang
1. Exhibiting traits found attractive, desirable, or impressive to asexuals.
2. Exhibiting traits which are attractive in a nonsexual way.
Autoerotic - adjective
From auto, meaning self.
1. Undertaken solitarily and intended for sexual arousal and/or release.
Autonosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From autonomous, meaning self governed.
1. Not defined by dominant categories of sexuality.
2. An individual with such an orientation.
See also: pomosexual
Autosexual - noun/adjective
From auto, meaning self.
1. Sexual attraction or behavior towards one's self.
2. An individual who experiences such an attraction.
3. An asexual individual with a libido they prefer to satisfy themself.
Related forms: autosexuality, autosexualism
Biamory - noun
From bi, meaning two.
Romantic or sexual involvement with two individuals at one time.
Related forms: biamorous, biamorist
Bigender - adjective
From bi, meaning two.
1. Identifying with two genders.
See genderfluid, two-spirit
Bisexy - adjective
Slang
Statisically significately attractive to bisexuals or to individuals of all sexes or genders.
Boydyke - noun
Slang
A male- or masculine-identified individual who identifies sexually and culturally with lesbians and bisexual women.
See also: guydyke, lesbian-identified man, male lesbian
Cerebrosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From cerebro, meaning brain.
1. Experiencing sexual attraction based entirely on mental rather than physical factors.
2. An individual with such an orientation.
See also: sapiosexual
Cisgender - adjective
From cis-, meaning on the near side of.
Identifying with the same gender as one was assigned and reared.
See also: ciswoman, cisman, gender normative
Cisman - noun
A male-identified individual who was assigned and reared as male.
Cissexism - noun
The belief that the identities of transfolk and other gender variant individuals are inherently inferior and less valid than those of cisfolk.
See also: genderism, transphobia
Ciswoman - noun
A female-identified individual who was assigned and reared as female.
Compersion - noun
Neologism
Feeling of empathetic happiness experienced when a romantic partner experiences happiness through an outside source, often another romantic partner.
Related forms: compersive
Crush - noun
Slang
Intense and often fleeting feeling of romantic attraction.
See also: frush, squish
Demisexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From demi, for half.
1. Experiencing sexual attraction rarely and only in response to romantic feelings.
2. An individual who is primarily asexual but may develop sexual feelings in response to romantic attraction.
See also: gray-a, graysexual
Fa'afafine -
A traditionally accepted transfeminine third gender specific to Samoan culture.
Faeboy - noun
Slang
A transmasculine individual with an androgynous or effeminate gender presentation.
Frush - noun
Slang
Short for friend crush; an intense desire for a close, platonic relationship with an individual.
See also: crush, squish
FtM - noun
Acronym
Female to male; a female-assigned trans person who identifies as and is transitioning to male.
See also: transman
Gay - noun/adjective
Slang
Homosexual; can refer specifically to males.
See also: homosexual, isosexual
Gender of Rearing - noun
The gender identity which one was raised and socialized as, typically assigned at birth and based on the appearance of the genitals.
See also: AFAB, AMAB
Gender Refusenik - noun (1)
A gender variant individual denied hormones and/or surgery, either by lack of funds or psychiatric paternalism.
See also: non-op
Gender Variant - adjective
Not conforming to established sex roles or domesticated gender traits.
Related forms: gender variance
Genderfluid - adjective
A gender identity and presentation which fluctuates between two or more genders.
See also: bigender, two-spirit
Genderqueer - noun/adjective
1. Not identifying with a specific gender.
2. An individual who does not strictly identify with any one gender.
Synonyms: gender outlaw, genderpunk
Genderism - noun
The belief that there are only and should only be two genders and that they are irrevocably tied to physical sex.
See also: cissexism, transphobia
Girlfag - noun
Slang
A female- or feminine-identified individual who identifies sexually and culturally with gay and bisexual men.
See also: faghag with benefits
Gray-A - adjective (2)
From gray area, a metaphor for ambiguity.
Any of a number of ambiguous sexual orientations related to asexuality, including:
- experiencing sexual attraction only under rare circumstances.
- having only a minimal sex drive.
- not identifying with sexual culture.
- functionally asexual/celibate.
See also: demisexual, graysexual
Graysexual - adjective/noun
From gray area, a metaphor for ambiguity.
1. An ambiguous sexual orientation which falls in between more dominant categories.
2. An individual with such an orientation.
See also: demisexual, gray-a
Guydyke - noun
Alternate term for a boydyke.
See also: boydyke, lesbian-identified man, male lesbian
Gynandroid - noun
Antiquated
Alternate term for androgyne.
See also: agender, androgyne, genderqueer, neutrois
Gynophilic - adjective
From gyno, meaning woman.
Attracted to women.
Related forms: gynophile, gynophilia.
Gynaeotrope - noun
Antiquated
From gyno, meaning woman.
Synonym for lesbian.
See also: lesbian, sapphic
Heterocentrism - noun
The implicit assumption that everyone is heterosexual.
Heterosexual - noun/adjective
From hetero-, meaning different.
1. Experiencing attraction to members of the opposite sex.
2. Individuals who experience attraction to members of the opposite sex.
See also: straight
Homosexual - noun/adjective
From homo-, meaning man or same.
1. Experiencing attraction to members of the same sex.
2. Individuals who experience attraction to members of the same sex.
See also: gay, isosexual
Intersex - adjective
Having ambiguous genitalia or chromosomal anomalies resulting in atypical sexual dymorphism.
Related forms: intersexuality
Isosexual - noun/adjective
From iso-, meaning equal or same.
Alternate term for same sex attraction intended as a challenge to gender bias in prior terminology.
See also: gay, homosexual
Lesbian-Identified Man - noun
A male- or masculine- identified individual who identifies sexually and culturally as a lesbian.
See also: boydyke, guydyke, male lesbian
Lithromantic - noun/adjective
Neologism
From litho-, meaning stone.
1. Experiencing romantic attraction and love without the desire for reciprocation of fidelity.
2. An individual who experiences romantic feeling in this way.
Monoamorous - adjective
From mono-, meaning one.
Monosexual - noun/adjective
From mono-, meaning one.
1. Sexually attracted exclusively to one sex or gender.
2. An individual who is only attracted to one sex or gender.
Related forms: monosexuality, monosexualism
MtF - noun
Acronym
Male to female; a male-assigned trans person who identifies as and is transitioning to female.
See also: transwoman
Neutrois - noun
Neologism
An individual who experiences a complete absence of gender identity and a resulting dysphoria in the physical trappings of their biological sex.
See also: agender, androgyne, gynandroid
Nonlibidoist - noun
An asexual who does not experience any sexual urges.
Omnisexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From omni-, meaning all.
1. Capable of sexual attraction to individuals or any and all genders.
2. An individual with this orientation.
See also: anthrosexual, autonosexual, polysexual, pomosexual, queer, omnisexual
Pansexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From pan-, meaning all.
Alternate term for Omnisexual
See also: anthrosexual, autonosexual, polysexual, pomosexual, queer, omnisexual
Paper - adjective
Slang
Preferring to take a passive role in sexual exchanges and accept sexual stimulation from a partner rather than provide it.
Poly - adjective
Slang
Shortened form of polyamorous.
Polyamorous - adjective
From poly, meaning many.
1. Able to experience romanticosexual feelings for more than one individual at a time.
2. Dating multiple partners with the full awareness and consent of all involved.
See also: ethical slut, polyfidelity, swinger
Polysaturated - adjective
Slang
Polyamorous, but dating to capacity and thus unavailable.
Polysexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From poly-, meaning many.
1. Sexually attracted to individuals spanning multiple genders, but not all.
2. An individual who can be attracted to members of multiple, but not all, genders.
See also: anthrosexual, autonosexual, pansexual, pomosexual, queer, omnisexual
Sapiosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From sapio, meaning wise.
1. Experiencing sexual attraction to intelligence.
2. An individual who experiences sexual attraction based on a potential partner's intelligence.
See also: cerebrosexual
Singular They - pronoun
Antiquated
Original gender nonspecific English pronoun.
See also: spivak pronouns, xe/xyr, zie/hir.
Sother - noun
Slang
Shortened or diminutive form of significant other.
Spivak Pronouns (Ey/Em) - pronoun
A proposed set of gender neutral pronouns invented by Michael Spivak.
See also: singular they, zie/hir
Squish - noun
Slang
The aromantic equivalent of a crush; an intense desire for an individual's platonic companionship and affection.
See also: crush, frush
Stone - adjective
Slang
Preferring to provide sexual stimulation to a partner without desire from reciprocation.
Straight - adjective
Slang
Heterosexual
Transgender - adjective
From trans-, meaning on the far side of.
Identifying with a gender other than that which one was assigned at birth.
See also: genderqueer, transsexual
Transman - noun
A male- or masculine-identified individual who was not assigned or socialized as male.
See also: ftm
Transsexual - noun/adjective
1. Identifying as the opposite gender from which one was assigned at birth and having taken steps to transition to one's true sex.
2. An individual who identifies as the opposite gender from which they were assigned and is or has transitioned to their true sex.
See also: transgender, gender refusenik
Transwoman - noun
A female- or feminine-identified individual who was not assigned or socialized as female.
See also: MtF
Xe/Xyr - pronoun
A non-standard gender-irrelevant pronoun, chiefly seen in online forums.
See also: singular they, spivak pronouns, Zie/Hir
Zie/Hir - pronoun
An invented gender neutral pronoun popular in the genderqueer community.
See also: singular they, spivak pronouns, Xe/Xyr
(1) Proposed by Rafael Carter in The Angel's Dictionary.
(2) According to AVENwiki.
So, without further ado, I bring you:
Ian Ridley's
Complete
Romanticosexudiversifying
Genderucational
Spectranomicon
Ace - noun/adjective
Slang
Shortened or deminuitive form of asexual.
See also: asexual
AFAB - adjective
Acronym
Assigned female at birth.
See also: gender of rearing
Agender - adjective
From the prefix a-, meaning not.
1. Without a gender-related sense of identity.
2. Identifying specifically as genderless.
See also: androgyne, gynandroid, neutrois
AMAB - adjective
Acronym
Assigned male at birth.
See also: gender of rearing
Ambisextrous - adjective
Pun on ambidextrous
Equally interested in either sex.
See also: amphigenic invert, bisexual
Amphigenic Invert - noun
Antiquated
An individual who is equally attracted to both the same and the opposite sex.
See also: ambisextrous, bisexual
Amphisexual - noun/adjective
From amphi-, meaning both
Synonym for bisexual.
Androgyne - noun
1. An individual whose gender identity and/or physical sex is not readily apparent.
2. An individual who identifies as gender neutral or as inbetween male and female.
See also: agender, genderqueer, gynandroid, neutrois
Androphilic - adjective
From andro-, meaning man.
Attracted to men.
Related forms: androphile, androphilia
Anthrosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From the prefix anthro-, for human.
1. Sexually attracted to people on an individual basis without regard to gender or physical traits.
2. An individual whose sexual attraction functions on this basis.
Related forms: anthrosexuality, anthrosexualism
Aromantic - noun/adjective
From the prefix a-, meaning not.
1. Not experiencing romantic love.
2. An individual who does not experience romantic love.
Related forms: aromance, aromanticism
Asexual - noun/adjective
From the prefix a-, meaning not.
1. Not experiencing sexual attraction.
2. An individual who does not experience sexual attraction.
Related forms: asexuality, asexualism
Asexy - adjective
Slang
1. Exhibiting traits found attractive, desirable, or impressive to asexuals.
2. Exhibiting traits which are attractive in a nonsexual way.
Autoerotic - adjective
From auto, meaning self.
1. Undertaken solitarily and intended for sexual arousal and/or release.
Autonosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From autonomous, meaning self governed.
1. Not defined by dominant categories of sexuality.
2. An individual with such an orientation.
See also: pomosexual
Autosexual - noun/adjective
From auto, meaning self.
1. Sexual attraction or behavior towards one's self.
2. An individual who experiences such an attraction.
3. An asexual individual with a libido they prefer to satisfy themself.
Related forms: autosexuality, autosexualism
Biamory - noun
From bi, meaning two.
Romantic or sexual involvement with two individuals at one time.
Related forms: biamorous, biamorist
Bigender - adjective
From bi, meaning two.
1. Identifying with two genders.
See genderfluid, two-spirit
Bisexy - adjective
Slang
Statisically significately attractive to bisexuals or to individuals of all sexes or genders.
Boydyke - noun
Slang
A male- or masculine-identified individual who identifies sexually and culturally with lesbians and bisexual women.
See also: guydyke, lesbian-identified man, male lesbian
Cerebrosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From cerebro, meaning brain.
1. Experiencing sexual attraction based entirely on mental rather than physical factors.
2. An individual with such an orientation.
See also: sapiosexual
Cisgender - adjective
From cis-, meaning on the near side of.
Identifying with the same gender as one was assigned and reared.
See also: ciswoman, cisman, gender normative
Cisman - noun
A male-identified individual who was assigned and reared as male.
Cissexism - noun
The belief that the identities of transfolk and other gender variant individuals are inherently inferior and less valid than those of cisfolk.
See also: genderism, transphobia
Ciswoman - noun
A female-identified individual who was assigned and reared as female.
Compersion - noun
Neologism
Feeling of empathetic happiness experienced when a romantic partner experiences happiness through an outside source, often another romantic partner.
Related forms: compersive
Crush - noun
Slang
Intense and often fleeting feeling of romantic attraction.
See also: frush, squish
Demisexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From demi, for half.
1. Experiencing sexual attraction rarely and only in response to romantic feelings.
2. An individual who is primarily asexual but may develop sexual feelings in response to romantic attraction.
See also: gray-a, graysexual
Fa'afafine -
A traditionally accepted transfeminine third gender specific to Samoan culture.
Faeboy - noun
Slang
A transmasculine individual with an androgynous or effeminate gender presentation.
Frush - noun
Slang
Short for friend crush; an intense desire for a close, platonic relationship with an individual.
See also: crush, squish
FtM - noun
Acronym
Female to male; a female-assigned trans person who identifies as and is transitioning to male.
See also: transman
Gay - noun/adjective
Slang
Homosexual; can refer specifically to males.
See also: homosexual, isosexual
Gender of Rearing - noun
The gender identity which one was raised and socialized as, typically assigned at birth and based on the appearance of the genitals.
See also: AFAB, AMAB
Gender Refusenik - noun (1)
A gender variant individual denied hormones and/or surgery, either by lack of funds or psychiatric paternalism.
See also: non-op
Gender Variant - adjective
Not conforming to established sex roles or domesticated gender traits.
Related forms: gender variance
Genderfluid - adjective
A gender identity and presentation which fluctuates between two or more genders.
See also: bigender, two-spirit
Genderqueer - noun/adjective
1. Not identifying with a specific gender.
2. An individual who does not strictly identify with any one gender.
Synonyms: gender outlaw, genderpunk
Genderism - noun
The belief that there are only and should only be two genders and that they are irrevocably tied to physical sex.
See also: cissexism, transphobia
Girlfag - noun
Slang
A female- or feminine-identified individual who identifies sexually and culturally with gay and bisexual men.
See also: faghag with benefits
Gray-A - adjective (2)
From gray area, a metaphor for ambiguity.
Any of a number of ambiguous sexual orientations related to asexuality, including:
- experiencing sexual attraction only under rare circumstances.
- having only a minimal sex drive.
- not identifying with sexual culture.
- functionally asexual/celibate.
See also: demisexual, graysexual
Graysexual - adjective/noun
From gray area, a metaphor for ambiguity.
1. An ambiguous sexual orientation which falls in between more dominant categories.
2. An individual with such an orientation.
See also: demisexual, gray-a
Guydyke - noun
Alternate term for a boydyke.
See also: boydyke, lesbian-identified man, male lesbian
Gynandroid - noun
Antiquated
Alternate term for androgyne.
See also: agender, androgyne, genderqueer, neutrois
Gynophilic - adjective
From gyno, meaning woman.
Attracted to women.
Related forms: gynophile, gynophilia.
Gynaeotrope - noun
Antiquated
From gyno, meaning woman.
Synonym for lesbian.
See also: lesbian, sapphic
Heterocentrism - noun
The implicit assumption that everyone is heterosexual.
Heterosexual - noun/adjective
From hetero-, meaning different.
1. Experiencing attraction to members of the opposite sex.
2. Individuals who experience attraction to members of the opposite sex.
See also: straight
Homosexual - noun/adjective
From homo-, meaning man or same.
1. Experiencing attraction to members of the same sex.
2. Individuals who experience attraction to members of the same sex.
See also: gay, isosexual
Intersex - adjective
Having ambiguous genitalia or chromosomal anomalies resulting in atypical sexual dymorphism.
Related forms: intersexuality
Isosexual - noun/adjective
From iso-, meaning equal or same.
Alternate term for same sex attraction intended as a challenge to gender bias in prior terminology.
See also: gay, homosexual
Lesbian-Identified Man - noun
A male- or masculine- identified individual who identifies sexually and culturally as a lesbian.
See also: boydyke, guydyke, male lesbian
Lithromantic - noun/adjective
Neologism
From litho-, meaning stone.
1. Experiencing romantic attraction and love without the desire for reciprocation of fidelity.
2. An individual who experiences romantic feeling in this way.
Monoamorous - adjective
From mono-, meaning one.
Monosexual - noun/adjective
From mono-, meaning one.
1. Sexually attracted exclusively to one sex or gender.
2. An individual who is only attracted to one sex or gender.
Related forms: monosexuality, monosexualism
MtF - noun
Acronym
Male to female; a male-assigned trans person who identifies as and is transitioning to female.
See also: transwoman
Neutrois - noun
Neologism
An individual who experiences a complete absence of gender identity and a resulting dysphoria in the physical trappings of their biological sex.
See also: agender, androgyne, gynandroid
Nonlibidoist - noun
An asexual who does not experience any sexual urges.
Omnisexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From omni-, meaning all.
1. Capable of sexual attraction to individuals or any and all genders.
2. An individual with this orientation.
See also: anthrosexual, autonosexual, polysexual, pomosexual, queer, omnisexual
Pansexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From pan-, meaning all.
Alternate term for Omnisexual
See also: anthrosexual, autonosexual, polysexual, pomosexual, queer, omnisexual
Paper - adjective
Slang
Preferring to take a passive role in sexual exchanges and accept sexual stimulation from a partner rather than provide it.
Poly - adjective
Slang
Shortened form of polyamorous.
Polyamorous - adjective
From poly, meaning many.
1. Able to experience romanticosexual feelings for more than one individual at a time.
2. Dating multiple partners with the full awareness and consent of all involved.
See also: ethical slut, polyfidelity, swinger
Polysaturated - adjective
Slang
Polyamorous, but dating to capacity and thus unavailable.
Polysexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From poly-, meaning many.
1. Sexually attracted to individuals spanning multiple genders, but not all.
2. An individual who can be attracted to members of multiple, but not all, genders.
See also: anthrosexual, autonosexual, pansexual, pomosexual, queer, omnisexual
Sapiosexual - noun/adjective
Neologism
From sapio, meaning wise.
1. Experiencing sexual attraction to intelligence.
2. An individual who experiences sexual attraction based on a potential partner's intelligence.
See also: cerebrosexual
Singular They - pronoun
Antiquated
Original gender nonspecific English pronoun.
See also: spivak pronouns, xe/xyr, zie/hir.
Sother - noun
Slang
Shortened or diminutive form of significant other.
Spivak Pronouns (Ey/Em) - pronoun
A proposed set of gender neutral pronouns invented by Michael Spivak.
See also: singular they, zie/hir
Squish - noun
Slang
The aromantic equivalent of a crush; an intense desire for an individual's platonic companionship and affection.
See also: crush, frush
Stone - adjective
Slang
Preferring to provide sexual stimulation to a partner without desire from reciprocation.
Straight - adjective
Slang
Heterosexual
Transgender - adjective
From trans-, meaning on the far side of.
Identifying with a gender other than that which one was assigned at birth.
See also: genderqueer, transsexual
Transman - noun
A male- or masculine-identified individual who was not assigned or socialized as male.
See also: ftm
Transsexual - noun/adjective
1. Identifying as the opposite gender from which one was assigned at birth and having taken steps to transition to one's true sex.
2. An individual who identifies as the opposite gender from which they were assigned and is or has transitioned to their true sex.
See also: transgender, gender refusenik
Transwoman - noun
A female- or feminine-identified individual who was not assigned or socialized as female.
See also: MtF
Xe/Xyr - pronoun
A non-standard gender-irrelevant pronoun, chiefly seen in online forums.
See also: singular they, spivak pronouns, Zie/Hir
Zie/Hir - pronoun
An invented gender neutral pronoun popular in the genderqueer community.
See also: singular they, spivak pronouns, Xe/Xyr
(1) Proposed by Rafael Carter in The Angel's Dictionary.
(2) According to AVENwiki.