Connecting With Others
I think I mentioned the other week that I'm working with my therapist on BACE goals. The idea behind is taken from the spoon theory but they use the analogy of fuel. The worksheet I've got says 'BACE is about using the fuel we do have for that day wisely. There are 4 main areas we need fuel for:
Body care - exercise, healthy eating treat illness, sleep
Achievement - work, chores, study
Connecting - friends, family, community
Enjoyment - play, fun, pleasure'
And our main task in the session was filling in what I do in each of those categories, also what I've stopped doing and what I WANT to do.
My body care and acheivement columns were full. I could not think of anything to put in the connecting with others category, other than DW. That's what made me feel like a failure and made me cry.
So it's been marked up as something we can look at/work on further down the line. Because the idea is to get an even spread throughout the day/week of the four areas.
My homework before my next session is to fill out a planner. I mean, that in an of itself is a positive thing for me because god knows I love those. But we have to find my baseline of a 'normal' week. I can tell you already it's going to be a completely uneven split so.
And then we're going to pick things to start including in and building up to doing.
I'm... not entirely sure how that's going to help with my depression and anxiety, if I'm honest, but I'm definitely hoping towards finding that balance thing again, finding my motivation and my energy levels. These are good things, things I miss. So, we'll see. Trying to keep an open mind.
Body care - exercise, healthy eating treat illness, sleep
Achievement - work, chores, study
Connecting - friends, family, community
Enjoyment - play, fun, pleasure'
And our main task in the session was filling in what I do in each of those categories, also what I've stopped doing and what I WANT to do.
My body care and acheivement columns were full. I could not think of anything to put in the connecting with others category, other than DW. That's what made me feel like a failure and made me cry.
So it's been marked up as something we can look at/work on further down the line. Because the idea is to get an even spread throughout the day/week of the four areas.
My homework before my next session is to fill out a planner. I mean, that in an of itself is a positive thing for me because god knows I love those. But we have to find my baseline of a 'normal' week. I can tell you already it's going to be a completely uneven split so.
And then we're going to pick things to start including in and building up to doing.
I'm... not entirely sure how that's going to help with my depression and anxiety, if I'm honest, but I'm definitely hoping towards finding that balance thing again, finding my motivation and my energy levels. These are good things, things I miss. So, we'll see. Trying to keep an open mind.