On how Elena Gilbert has to go dark and why as a Damon/Elena shipper, I'm more than okay with that!

[badboy_fangirl]

Not the most eloquent of titles, but the most accurate. First of all, let me say this post is mostly inspired by the lovely lit_chick08, whom I may or may not quote profusely. [Meg, I didn't ask permission, but I hope it's okay to use some of your post regarding this subject]. Second of all, TVD fandom, I love you, and I just want us all to get along, but

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[linsell_farm]

First - that gif is absolutely TOO PERFECT!! This is definitely not JUST a show.

[*] Second - I feel bad for my part in you feeling alone in the fandom after the initial reactions. I know that I wasn't the cause of it, but my initial post certainly would not have helped encourage that camaraderie & like-minded feeling that we've enjoyed for awhile now. That's the part that I feel badly for.
I know that I felt very unsettled and adrift for the first time since I joined this fandom. That shows me just how close-knit I've become with my LJ friends. I did not at all like the feeling of general dissension that I had, and am quite grateful that through various interactions I was able to get rid of that feeling all together.

[*] Third - I agree with everything you & Meg say in this post (and referred to both of you in my latest post). As I said over there, I am okay with Elena approaching Katherine's philosophy but I really do not want to see her take it on as her own. I don't believe that the show would take Elena's character there.
I do want Elena to end up in a place where she can be the 'right' girl for Damon and vice versa, and continue to believe that they are meant for each other.

[badboy_fangirl]

My thing isn't that I expect every to agree with me, or always feel the same as me, it was just that initially I felt like I was the only one who wasn't mad at Elena. And then I began questioning everything, like maybe I just hadn't paid close enough attention or something...but even upon a rewatch, I just couldn't make myself feel something that I didn't--just like those of you who were annoyed with her couldn't help that that's how you felt. All the same, I appreciate the sentiment. But please know I don't expect us to always agree on everything.

I remember when Damon snapped Ric's neck in 3x04, I really felt that way too--like I couldn't connect because I was so mad at Damon for doing that, and it was hard for me, and I was adrift then. (Good word, adrift.)

Whatever leads to D/E 4VR, I'm all for! :D

[linsell_farm]

Nor do I expect that we'll all agree, but this was the first time that I saw such a vast difference amongst my 'inner circle' of friends. I was mad at Elena and couldn't see past that at all initially. It is my style to vent first and then form my opinion after some (usually very little) discussion with others. This time around, my initial reaction didn't really read as a 'vent' but instead looked more like I'd already made up my mind coming from a place of anger.
It also took a little more reading of others' posts for me to come around to a better frame of mind. It felt so good when that lightbulb went on, though!!

Anyhow, it's all good now. I can't wait to see what transpires between our beloved DE and how they deal with their anger, and passion, and everything else they feel for each other. We've certainly had examples of white-hot chemistry when they're frustrated with one another and I wouldn't mind seeing another one ... :D