Can we have a serious discussion about forgiveness?

[badboy_fangirl]

Or at least forgiveness in relationship to my television shows, because THAT'S SRS BSNS, y'all.

So you all know my affinity for badboys (my name is not a clever ruse to distract you from the real me, after all), but I've been contemplating some thoughts and theories in relationship to the pairings of Logan/Veronica (from Veronica Mars) and Damon/

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[distant_lines]

I love this! I honestly want to take this post down to City Hall and marry it!

I think forgiveness is something that truly shows maturity in a person. Forgiveness is hard, unfortunate, and not always worth it, so you have to truly want it and work to find that forgiveness within yourself. I tend to go two ways with forgiveness in my life, so prepare as I have to give a little bit of background to explain this all.

I say I have a two-year application process to being my friend. I've noticed through my life that my friendships tend to die out around after about two years, but the ones that stick around past two years, those people are in my life for ages. I'm about to move in with someone that I've been best friends with for a decade this September. So, if I haven't known someone for two years, odds are that if they do something to make me mad, I won't really forgive, the person is just gone. However, once your past the two year mark, it's damn near impossible for me to not forgive something. I truly believe that forgiveness comes to forgiveness, it's hard to come by unless you truly know the person, which is why I can forgive my friends and family for so much, because I feel that I know who they are as a person and that their actions do not define them.

However, my forgiveness has a limit. At some point, when things build up for years, my well runs dry. I'm going through that process right now. I've recently come to the conclusion that my relationship with my father has reached its coda, and it's because I know him as a person that makes it harder and harder to forgive. I think forgiveness reaches its limit once you realize that someone is never going to truly change their behavior, and it's a hard pill to swallow, but sometimes I think it is better to cut the cord and let it all go, because it's simply not worth the damage it does to yourself anymore.

So, that's why I probably forgive so easily when I watch TV shows. For one thing, I don't use my same morals for television that I use in my real life. I watch the characters, and judge them based on that, not by any sense of what is universally right or wrong.

[crowandfog]

Um, wow, you can marry Candy's post, and maybe I can marry yours???

Seriously, your response is pretty much THE EXACT RESPONSE that I was going to have, INCLUDING your attitude towards friendships (even having an application process, which I do, too) and your relationship with your father (something that I am also going through myself).

Some things that I especially agree with:

I've noticed through my life that my friendships tend to die out around after about two years, but the ones that stick around past two years, those people are in my life for ages.

I truly believe that forgiveness comes to forgiveness, it's hard to come by unless you truly know the person, which is why I can forgive my friends and family for so much, because I feel that I know who they are as a person and that their actions do not define them.

I think forgiveness reaches its limit once you realize that someone is never going to truly change their behavior, and it's a hard pill to swallow, but sometimes I think it is better to cut the cord and let it all go, because it's simply not worth the damage it does to yourself anymore.

So, that's why I probably forgive so easily when I watch TV shows. For one thing, I don't use my same morals for television that I use in my real life. I watch the characters, and judge them based on that, not by any sense of what is universally right or wrong.

So, yeah, pretty much your entire post is spot on, I think. :D Hope you don't mind if I friend you!

[distant_lines]

Are we twins? lol

I'm glad you enjoyed my post, I felt like I was rambling there for a minute, so glad to know I didn't just veer off into delusion or something.

I am friending you back!