This is a reply to the "comment" on my last entry!
I am the lazy one! Please, I beg to differ! You would never understand how much effort i put into raising my children to be independent and fully satisfied with life! Laziness is an everyday part of our worlds thinking. Laziness is giving my kid the breast just because i don't feel like taking 5 minutes to try to find out the real problem.
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I would like to ask you a couple of things- fine, you say that Babywise works for you... BUT...
~ Where is the evidence that 'disciplining' a baby works? An infant is not going to understand cause-and-effect or "good" and "bad" behaviour. I challenge you to find me a scientific study proving that.
~ Lazyness is allowing your kids to eat sleep and scream when ever they feel like it...
Laziness is also not reviewing the spelling when you post to LJ, too, so I hardly think you're an authority on the matter.
And... god forbid a child be allowed to sleep when they're tired, eat when they're hungry, and express how they're feeling? I really feel sorry for you if you don't do these things and have to live by an obsessively rigid schedule- god forbid the power goes out and you wake up late or the car won't start one morning or some other normal every-day calamity occurs- your world will be thrown into chaos.
~ If so...read it again, you obviously missed the key elements!
The part about breaking a baby's will disgusted me... I think I understood that concept well enough, and I don't see any point in continuing to read something not only advocating child abuse, but passing it off as sound parenting, thankyou.
~ An eighteen year old and an eighteen month old are two entirely different people. Just like it's more than a bit ridiculous to be wiping an 18 year old's nose, it's equally ridiculous to expect an 18 month old to have the same understanding of the world as you do. Being a parent does not mean smothering your child; but it also doesn't mean ignoring him or her.
My son is two years old, happy, and highly independent. He is loved by his family, and he wasn't "held and fed 24/7"- but my partner and I didn't ignore him when he was hungry or needed a change or a sleep. There is a difference between a child throwing a tantrum and genuinely needing something- as most parents will attest to, you learn the differences- and not every request for something is your child attempting to manipulate you.
I feel for children brought up with this method- the world is not formed on rigid schedules, and conformity- ultimately, children are their own people and to have any sense of self they're going to need their individuality as much as they're going to need to know right from wrong.
And I wonder about the psyche of the little kid who gets ignored when he or she makes a simple request like "I'm hungry." You say obesity is a problem in the US- low self-esteem seems to be much more prevalent, and much more dangerous.
Furthermore, I feel for the parents who have been brainwashed into thinking that this is what parenting is about- schedules and doing things correctly- the last time I checked, it was about introducing a young person to the world and helping them make sense of it.
Finally- why should you tell people who disagree with you to just go elsewhere- this is a community for the discussion of Babywise, and the last time I checked, discussion could include criticism. I can understand you not tolerating trolls with one liners, but telling people to clear off for disagreeing and offering a well-thought out response is just... rude and not exactly making the Babywise philosophy look good. If it really were such a great way to bring up children, couldn't you just respond to the arguments people have made intelligently- with facts- rather than getting emotive and telling them to go elsewhere?
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I just want to make it clear that i didn't write my journal to be corrected by every Tom, Dick or Harry. I wrote it to respond to a reply that someone gave me! Forgive me if it was painful to read...you should have stopped! No one asked you to read it or reply to it.
About reading the book! Try finishing it! I have NEVER made my kids sit in a messy diaper, not fed them when they were hungry or not held them when they needed some love! I simply meet the need at hand! No where in book does it say to deprive a child or anything close to it!
Scheduling. My kids are on a schedule and yes we follow it close. However, the schedule is nothing that can't be changed! We live in a changing world and my schedule changes when it needs to be changed!
By the way, if we are both raising happy kids let's allow eachother to do the best that we can do!
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