feeling "stuck" in my relationship
I don't know if I am even in a relationship anymore....it's not that we have broken up, it's just gotten to the point of being together more as roommates rather than lovers. Especially the lovers part...there is none, only three times since Jan 1st.
I love him I really do
But at the same time, should I stay in a relationship where this is it? Where it's the perdictable, "how was your day?" then "whats for dinner?" then watch tv, I retreat to the bedroom and he stays up until all hours of the night and usually falls asleep on the couch.
I know he loves me
Really loves me
Everyone that I have talked to says I need to talk to him about these issues, thing is we have talked about them over and over and over again....and nothing is changing. So I have given up, especially on psychical part of the relationship. I am tired of rejects.
I just thought I would get that off my chest, I rarely post on Live Journal, and when I do it certainly isn't about something this private in my life, but I don't know,I just felt like I need to be heard. Does that make sense?
Should I go along with this?
Or pull the plug once our lease is up (in Dec)
It's not that our relationship is bad, I mean we still laugh at times, and go to movies, and things like that, but the physical part is completely gone, sleeping in the same bad is almost completely gone, and I certainly tend to interrupt his tv shows when I try to have a conversation with him....kind of irritating.
Again, should I just accept for these things to change over time in a relationship (physically) but it's only been 2 years that we have been together, I wouldn't think that part of a relationship should die that quickly. But what do I know?
If I had to say how I feel, right now, for the most part, is lonely and frustrated and indifferent. At times a glint of hope jumps into the picture when he hugs me, or wants me to cuddle with him, or laughs with me. but those are becoming rarer as time goes by.
I have until Dec to figure things out. Lots of thinking I will have to do......
I love him I really do
But at the same time, should I stay in a relationship where this is it? Where it's the perdictable, "how was your day?" then "whats for dinner?" then watch tv, I retreat to the bedroom and he stays up until all hours of the night and usually falls asleep on the couch.
I know he loves me
Really loves me
Everyone that I have talked to says I need to talk to him about these issues, thing is we have talked about them over and over and over again....and nothing is changing. So I have given up, especially on psychical part of the relationship. I am tired of rejects.
I just thought I would get that off my chest, I rarely post on Live Journal, and when I do it certainly isn't about something this private in my life, but I don't know,I just felt like I need to be heard. Does that make sense?
Should I go along with this?
Or pull the plug once our lease is up (in Dec)
It's not that our relationship is bad, I mean we still laugh at times, and go to movies, and things like that, but the physical part is completely gone, sleeping in the same bad is almost completely gone, and I certainly tend to interrupt his tv shows when I try to have a conversation with him....kind of irritating.
Again, should I just accept for these things to change over time in a relationship (physically) but it's only been 2 years that we have been together, I wouldn't think that part of a relationship should die that quickly. But what do I know?
If I had to say how I feel, right now, for the most part, is lonely and frustrated and indifferent. At times a glint of hope jumps into the picture when he hugs me, or wants me to cuddle with him, or laughs with me. but those are becoming rarer as time goes by.
I have until Dec to figure things out. Lots of thinking I will have to do......