The Things I Want In A Man
(Because that's what I want. Not a Guy, or a Boy or a Child. A real live, Prince Charming, Man).
This is a running list of all the things I want in a man (in no particular order). Not just the basic "sense of humor", "smart", "cute", "kind", sort of things. But the real day to day things. The nitty gritty things. The things that might even matter more to me because they're based on my own life experiences.
I'm not asking for perfection here, of course. No one is perfect. And I'm well aware that no man is going to have EVERYTHING I could ever want or need. But there's no harm in putting it out there. And this way I learn which things are wants, which are needs, and which things I can live without for the right One.
So without further ado, here is the first installment:
1. I want a man who can laugh at the unexpected. Because I don't. And I need someone who can, who can show me, who can balance me out.
2. I want a man who knows when to be serious. Because sometimes the unexpected isn't funny. And when that happens I need someone who is responsible, and who knows how to handle serious situations with dignity, respect, kindness, thoughtfulness and candor. Because when push comes to shove, I'm the first person to freak out when something doesn't go my way.
3. I want a man who knows how to handle me when I freak out. Someone who knows how to communicate, and knows what I need to hear. But doesn't just say it because I want to hear it, someone who says it because it's what he believes, or feels to be true. Someone who can put their arm around me and make me feel safe when I don't feel safe anywhere else. Someone who can fill me with their own courage so that I might be able to continue to deal with things on my own, because I know that they are there beside me.
4. I want a man who knows how to communicate. Who texts me back when I text him. Who calls me back when I call him. Who doesn't get annoyed or roll his eyes when I ask him to "tell me something". Someone who can clearly tell me how they feel about me, and all the reasons why. Someone who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to ask for it. I want long stimulating conversations, and I never want to wonder what's going on inside his head when we're sitting right next to each other.
5. I want a man who works as hard on our relationship as I do. I am tired of always carrying the weight of a relationship, and I want someone who can carry it with me. Who is as invested as I am, and shows it in similar ways as I do.
This is a running list of all the things I want in a man (in no particular order). Not just the basic "sense of humor", "smart", "cute", "kind", sort of things. But the real day to day things. The nitty gritty things. The things that might even matter more to me because they're based on my own life experiences.
I'm not asking for perfection here, of course. No one is perfect. And I'm well aware that no man is going to have EVERYTHING I could ever want or need. But there's no harm in putting it out there. And this way I learn which things are wants, which are needs, and which things I can live without for the right One.
So without further ado, here is the first installment:
1. I want a man who can laugh at the unexpected. Because I don't. And I need someone who can, who can show me, who can balance me out.
2. I want a man who knows when to be serious. Because sometimes the unexpected isn't funny. And when that happens I need someone who is responsible, and who knows how to handle serious situations with dignity, respect, kindness, thoughtfulness and candor. Because when push comes to shove, I'm the first person to freak out when something doesn't go my way.
3. I want a man who knows how to handle me when I freak out. Someone who knows how to communicate, and knows what I need to hear. But doesn't just say it because I want to hear it, someone who says it because it's what he believes, or feels to be true. Someone who can put their arm around me and make me feel safe when I don't feel safe anywhere else. Someone who can fill me with their own courage so that I might be able to continue to deal with things on my own, because I know that they are there beside me.
4. I want a man who knows how to communicate. Who texts me back when I text him. Who calls me back when I call him. Who doesn't get annoyed or roll his eyes when I ask him to "tell me something". Someone who can clearly tell me how they feel about me, and all the reasons why. Someone who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to ask for it. I want long stimulating conversations, and I never want to wonder what's going on inside his head when we're sitting right next to each other.
5. I want a man who works as hard on our relationship as I do. I am tired of always carrying the weight of a relationship, and I want someone who can carry it with me. Who is as invested as I am, and shows it in similar ways as I do.