"Other things may change us, but we start and end with family.” Anthony Brandt
as the kids grow older i'm starting to embrace time with the immediate family more, the changing dynamics with my parents, sibs and their cousins. it wasn't always that way though. as a young adult i took a lot of that for granted coz i was too preoccupied with my career and own family. spending time with my immediate relatives was just incidental, like birthdays or christmas.
i looked at my parents amble along the other day after reunion dinner and it was ambivalent watching them hold on to each other. it's heartwarming to see a love that transcended generations but i can imagine how awful the loss will be if one of them goes first. how would my mom especially cope without my dad's positive spirit? how would he cope without his necessary role in her life as companion and caregiver?
any way i look forward to more of these gatherings. it's a time to keep each other up to speed and make plans for the future. who knows we may even take that giant vacation together someday the way we used to. my kid sis is already planning a joint-bd celebration (our bds are like 5 days apart). haha we'll break out the old wine then.
I've also drawn closer to my big sis and her family although we weren't close growing up. It had to do with our kids being close in age so they could hang quite naturally and that brought us together somehow. she even taught my kids assorted crafts which they promptly put to use
jill's bunny offerings
i guess it's all good on the Loh-front and another thing i'm grateful for in my older years.