I have a ways to go ... The catch, I think, is being nice within a particular moment, vs realizing you should have been nice in retrospect, if that makes sense.
Indeed, I am still traveling. I am in CA now, heading east within the next day or two. And I know exactly what you mean about realizing you should have been nice in retrospect. I am the exact same way. My problem mainly I think is that I am too blunt. So I am trying to live by that whole, 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all' joke. But I hate when people ask me for my opinion on something! I try to change the subject, but it doesn't always work. So I try to twist things around. Example- my friend has been playing guitar for a few years, but he still isn't very good at it. He doesn't sing or anything, and only plays original songs that sound like the kind of stuff my friends in jr high came up with. He asked what I thought of his music, and I told him he should be in a band. He was like, "awww, I don't know if I'm that good yet!" But I was thinking "you should be in a band, because you don't have enough talent to pull anything off on your own!" I'm a bad person! But that is our little secret...
Haha! Ohh dear, I don't know what I would have said in that Whaddya Think About My Music? situation. Good cover though, in the meantime.
'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all' THIS, I am primarily trying to at work.
I wish that I were more blunt/honest/frank (whatever you want to call it) with people! Also, that I could seek out the positive elements in things at the same time sooooo that I could ... honestly say something positive. Ta-da, Ultimate Nice. Ahem. Which, I guess, could also be seen as twisting things around. Or self-brainwashing.
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'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all' THIS, I am primarily trying to at work.
I wish that I were more blunt/honest/frank (whatever you want to call it) with people! Also, that I could seek out the positive elements in things at the same time sooooo that I could ... honestly say something positive. Ta-da, Ultimate Nice. Ahem. Which, I guess, could also be seen as twisting things around. Or self-brainwashing.
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