I think the only person in this situation lacking 'big girl pants' was you. The email Shell sent you was in no way 'nasty', just the way you were with her caused her to have to write and explain to you what your paranoia and selfishness couldn't see: you're not the only person on Earth. The night you called Shell, she didn't get to the phone, not because she was avoiding you but because she did not feel like talking to anyone. Of course if she knew that Fluffy of dying she would've talked to you in an instant, but she hasn't got super powers, how was she to know? To expect her to assume it's an emergency is just unfair. The fact she had to explain her stresses and dosage to you at all is ridiculous, as a friend you should have been aware of this (especially since she'd made livejournal posts about it). Shell has never done anything with malicious intent towards you, yet you chose to see it that way.
Now, since you're such a big fan of assuming things, I'm going to go ahead and join in and assume that this: "friends that dissapear for two months and pop up when it's convienent or they need something" is about me. Last September I started my A Levels, which are a big thing over here - without them, you're likely to not get a career. It's a full time course, something I've not done in many year due to the restrictions of my illness. I was amazed, actually, that I was fit enough to do it. Every time I came home I'd have a rest (dark room meditation which usually had me falling asleep for a couple hours), when I woke up I would do my home work and revision, which would be several more hours of work. Then when I'd finished I'd have dinner and basically collapse in front of the TV. I didn't have much energy to do anything else. The times I got online I usually missed speaking to you and Shell. Catching either of you online was great because I missed you both a lot. There was no 'avoidance' going on, and when I spoke to you I never wanted anything more than friendship. Mainly I couldn't hold a conversation with you, since you only seemed happy to talk about your work and your animals, which is fair enough. However, if I spoke about anything to do outside those subjects, our conversation would fall dead. I persisted and found that this wasn't going to change. I'm not in a habit of calling people this, since it's not very nice but you're incredibly self-absorbed. We've not been close for a long time now, since there's only so much interest I can take in a one-sided conversationalist.
Any snide tweets made by myself were not even about you. I have two other sets of friends with drama going on, which was upsetting me. I think I got over you before this even happened. Since Shelli had sent the email to you, the ball was in your court to reply. For some reason you opted for the silent treatment, which just showed you had zero interest in repairing your relationship with her. The email was not 'passed around' as you claim, Shell only showed her closest friends, as you would if you were her.
It's a shame it ended like this yes, however I feel you're the one who pulled the plug, not us. Goodbye.
I gather you believe shell really didnt' talk to jollies that day. I wouldn't expect any less.
The two months thing, yeah you talked to everyone else but me. oh well.. I stopped caring a long time ago and I'm sorry that I didn't end it sooner to save us all the trouble. Wish you all the best. ;)
Now, since you're such a big fan of assuming things, I'm going to go ahead and join in and assume that this: "friends that dissapear for two months and pop up when it's convienent or they need something" is about me. Last September I started my A Levels, which are a big thing over here - without them, you're likely to not get a career. It's a full time course, something I've not done in many year due to the restrictions of my illness. I was amazed, actually, that I was fit enough to do it. Every time I came home I'd have a rest (dark room meditation which usually had me falling asleep for a couple hours), when I woke up I would do my home work and revision, which would be several more hours of work. Then when I'd finished I'd have dinner and basically collapse in front of the TV. I didn't have much energy to do anything else. The times I got online I usually missed speaking to you and Shell. Catching either of you online was great because I missed you both a lot. There was no 'avoidance' going on, and when I spoke to you I never wanted anything more than friendship. Mainly I couldn't hold a conversation with you, since you only seemed happy to talk about your work and your animals, which is fair enough. However, if I spoke about anything to do outside those subjects, our conversation would fall dead. I persisted and found that this wasn't going to change. I'm not in a habit of calling people this, since it's not very nice but you're incredibly self-absorbed. We've not been close for a long time now, since there's only so much interest I can take in a one-sided conversationalist.
Any snide tweets made by myself were not even about you. I have two other sets of friends with drama going on, which was upsetting me. I think I got over you before this even happened. Since Shelli had sent the email to you, the ball was in your court to reply. For some reason you opted for the silent treatment, which just showed you had zero interest in repairing your relationship with her. The email was not 'passed around' as you claim, Shell only showed her closest friends, as you would if you were her.
It's a shame it ended like this yes, however I feel you're the one who pulled the plug, not us. Goodbye.
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The two months thing, yeah you talked to everyone else but me. oh well.. I stopped caring a long time ago and I'm sorry that I didn't end it sooner to save us all the trouble. Wish you all the best. ;)
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