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Yes, I recognise that having this bloody growth on my ovary is unpleasant, after all I can feel it. The only thing I feel about the prospect of surgery is irritation that no one has done anything yet - the fact that it scares you doesn't mean that I have to feel that just because you do, and trying to justify this delusion by 'we all have feelings' is apallingly ignorant.
One of the things I particularly despise is people who think they're understanding difference by assuming that it's only surface and 'we're all the same underneath.'
No, I'm not the same as you, under my weird, different, confusing exterior. I'm not shy and vulnerable really and it's not that I hide emotions, I simply don't react to a lot of things with emotion. They're just not there, these feelings you believe in. Yes, I don't vomit forth my emotions continuously even when I have them; no that does not mean I must always be feeling the hysteria you would feel, only feeling too "shy" to show it.
When I do not display an emotion I do feel, it is because I do not want to and it's nobody else's goddamn business; it is a conscious choice. When I do not act emotional, the vast majority of the time it is because I haven't any emotions to "express" -- and they certainly wouldn't inform my behaviour if they did exist.
And the fact that I don't feel what you feel in all its overwrought hysterical mush, doesn't mean I'm inhuman. Trying to comfort yourself by thinking I'm lying or 'cannot express myself' or for some reason not showing that I'm really your clone is patronising, stupid, and rather pathetic.
I have no problem believing that you react to things with emotion where I would not. I still think it's a poor way to make decisions, excessive, pressuring to other people, and so forth, but at least I acknowledge the reality of your psyche.
I am not required to respect how other people live their lives, but I'm not going to try to change it - avoid these people, perhaps, but I'm not going to convince myself that they shouldn't, couldn't exist.
And yet, by not believing that these people are making brilliant decisions (but still acknowledging their reality and right to inhabit it, which is more than you do), I'm somehow cold and mean and a robot.
Humans. Honestly.
One of the things I particularly despise is people who think they're understanding difference by assuming that it's only surface and 'we're all the same underneath.'
No, I'm not the same as you, under my weird, different, confusing exterior. I'm not shy and vulnerable really and it's not that I hide emotions, I simply don't react to a lot of things with emotion. They're just not there, these feelings you believe in. Yes, I don't vomit forth my emotions continuously even when I have them; no that does not mean I must always be feeling the hysteria you would feel, only feeling too "shy" to show it.
When I do not display an emotion I do feel, it is because I do not want to and it's nobody else's goddamn business; it is a conscious choice. When I do not act emotional, the vast majority of the time it is because I haven't any emotions to "express" -- and they certainly wouldn't inform my behaviour if they did exist.
And the fact that I don't feel what you feel in all its overwrought hysterical mush, doesn't mean I'm inhuman. Trying to comfort yourself by thinking I'm lying or 'cannot express myself' or for some reason not showing that I'm really your clone is patronising, stupid, and rather pathetic.
I have no problem believing that you react to things with emotion where I would not. I still think it's a poor way to make decisions, excessive, pressuring to other people, and so forth, but at least I acknowledge the reality of your psyche.
I am not required to respect how other people live their lives, but I'm not going to try to change it - avoid these people, perhaps, but I'm not going to convince myself that they shouldn't, couldn't exist.
And yet, by not believing that these people are making brilliant decisions (but still acknowledging their reality and right to inhabit it, which is more than you do), I'm somehow cold and mean and a robot.
Humans. Honestly.