If she asked you your opinion, I think it's fine that you gave it and I think it's preferable that you told your honest opinion. If people don't want to know what others think, they shouldn't ask.
I don't know this dude and for all I do know, he could well be a douche. However, for what it's worth, I can't promise that I wouldn't be feeling similarly in his shoes because of my personal feelings about boundaries and whatnot. I like to think I'd be acting more maturely than this guy is, but to be fair, I know I'd feel jealous and that I would probably at least wonder why the boundaries in that friendship were set up the way they were. It would look strange to me and I wouldn't be able to help obsessing about it. I'm only human, after all.
I would also be downright pissed off at the fact that I was basically told I can shove my feelings about the situation right up my ass by my SO. It really does sound like some serious talks are in order between your friend and this dude. Whatever the reason, it's clear that they don't agree on where the line should be drawn with your friendship and that they need to figure it out one way or another.
I don't know this dude and for all I do know, he could well be a douche. However, for what it's worth, I can't promise that I wouldn't be feeling similarly in his shoes because of my personal feelings about boundaries and whatnot. I like to think I'd be acting more maturely than this guy is, but to be fair, I know I'd feel jealous and that I would probably at least wonder why the boundaries in that friendship were set up the way they were. It would look strange to me and I wouldn't be able to help obsessing about it. I'm only human, after all.
I would also be downright pissed off at the fact that I was basically told I can shove my feelings about the situation right up my ass by my SO. It really does sound like some serious talks are in order between your friend and this dude. Whatever the reason, it's clear that they don't agree on where the line should be drawn with your friendship and that they need to figure it out one way or another.
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