Losing friends over asexuality?
I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but it's something that I've been thinking about a lot lately and would like to talk to someone about :C
Edit: thank you for your responses, everyone! I realize it's probably just bad luck/our personalities, I just needed to vent a bit
Well, nearly all my friends are guys (I'm a girl btw). My best friend in the world is a guy, the group of people I always hang out with are all guys, and I've had a guy best friend ever since 1st grade. I hate saying this because it makes me seem like a ~special snowflake~, but I just get along better with them. I've had girl "best friends" over the years, but we've always stopped being friends. Literally every single one. I've NEVER understood what it was and just attributed it to "I just don't get along with girls"
Pretty much the only female friend I have is a best friend. Or...was (more on that in a sec). We've been friends since middle school (in college now); she moved in 10th grade, moved back last year and we started becoming close friends again. However, I'm noticing more and more that we're really not alike. We don't talk much, because usually the only subjects are guys, guys, and more guys. She recently lost her virginity and keeps telling me how much I'm missing out on, and that if I just try it one time, I'm going to be addicted. She thinks I'm just some suppressed sex-lover or something.
So there's that, and then we've recently brought one of our third friends into the mix. This friend is extremely boy-crazy as well. We hang out and I'm constantly hearing "Oh, I'd tap that". We go out for coffee together and it's just them talking about relationships while I sit there and say nothing.
Those two are hanging out all the time now without me. It seems childish to say, but what really made me upset is that they're going dancing tonight and didn't even bother to ask me. Either they know I would feel out of place around them, or they just don't want me to be a part of their ~friendship~ anymore (probably the latter).
TL;DR, I guess what I'm trying to say is, I think my disinterest in sex/guys in general has maybe caused me to only have guy friends. It seems weird, but it makes sense to me. I'm not sure if all girls are that guy-crazy or just the ones I hang out with, but I'm certainly not like that. I have a long-term boyfriend who I'm very happy with (and so do they). Obviously I can't discuss my sex life with these friends, but I'm also just plain not interested in discussing ~omg boy problems~. Maybe they think I'm boring or something =/
But yeah. I guess I might've been too "different" for girl friends to stick with me long enough before I knew about asexuality, and now that I do know, it's starting to make sense. Guys I can hang out with because there's obviously no pressure for me to talk about those things.
So...has any of this happened to you guys? Am I not completely crazy?
Edit: thank you for your responses, everyone! I realize it's probably just bad luck/our personalities, I just needed to vent a bit
Well, nearly all my friends are guys (I'm a girl btw). My best friend in the world is a guy, the group of people I always hang out with are all guys, and I've had a guy best friend ever since 1st grade. I hate saying this because it makes me seem like a ~special snowflake~, but I just get along better with them. I've had girl "best friends" over the years, but we've always stopped being friends. Literally every single one. I've NEVER understood what it was and just attributed it to "I just don't get along with girls"
Pretty much the only female friend I have is a best friend. Or...was (more on that in a sec). We've been friends since middle school (in college now); she moved in 10th grade, moved back last year and we started becoming close friends again. However, I'm noticing more and more that we're really not alike. We don't talk much, because usually the only subjects are guys, guys, and more guys. She recently lost her virginity and keeps telling me how much I'm missing out on, and that if I just try it one time, I'm going to be addicted. She thinks I'm just some suppressed sex-lover or something.
So there's that, and then we've recently brought one of our third friends into the mix. This friend is extremely boy-crazy as well. We hang out and I'm constantly hearing "Oh, I'd tap that". We go out for coffee together and it's just them talking about relationships while I sit there and say nothing.
Those two are hanging out all the time now without me. It seems childish to say, but what really made me upset is that they're going dancing tonight and didn't even bother to ask me. Either they know I would feel out of place around them, or they just don't want me to be a part of their ~friendship~ anymore (probably the latter).
TL;DR, I guess what I'm trying to say is, I think my disinterest in sex/guys in general has maybe caused me to only have guy friends. It seems weird, but it makes sense to me. I'm not sure if all girls are that guy-crazy or just the ones I hang out with, but I'm certainly not like that. I have a long-term boyfriend who I'm very happy with (and so do they). Obviously I can't discuss my sex life with these friends, but I'm also just plain not interested in discussing ~omg boy problems~. Maybe they think I'm boring or something =/
But yeah. I guess I might've been too "different" for girl friends to stick with me long enough before I knew about asexuality, and now that I do know, it's starting to make sense. Guys I can hang out with because there's obviously no pressure for me to talk about those things.
So...has any of this happened to you guys? Am I not completely crazy?