In Which Artemis Delivers the Promised Rant

[artemisrampant]

 The radio show itself was very good, if a tiny bit condescending.  She mentioned that in many cases, the motivation behind bicurious experimentation among teenagers has to do with confusion more than anything else, and it does not mean that they are truly bi or gay.  That bugged me, because I hate it when adults imply that you can't trust how a

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[skepticeddie]

I know how you feel. I've been there, done that, and I'm glad to have moved on. I'm actually incredibly surprised with how well my little budding romance has been progressing, because I didn't know I actually had it in me to have a decent relationship with someone. Don't you worry, love, things will get better.

Okay, first off, that's a little bit creepy. I know I wouldn't like it if I my mom cyber-syped on me, especially to use it as a weapon in an argument about sexuality. I've been reading a lot of queer literature and my mom noticed and kind of wanted to know why. I don't know what it is, but for some reason, it can be intensely hard to talk about sexuality to your parents. I came out to my aunt when I was visiting her and I'm out to most of my friends and some of them even know I have a semi-girlfriend, and I'm out to my sister, who's been completely amazing, but for some reason I haven't been able to really formalize it with my parents. I think it's because I'm afraid they're going to tell me (AGAIN) that I don't have to find a label and they don't want me worrying, wasting my time when I should be concentrating on other things. I'm afraid they'll view my involvement and dedication to being an advocate as an unnecessary distraction. And I don't think I could handle that.

[artemisrampant]

It's so hypocritical, really. My parents are always asking "so how's the love life," as a joke mostly, but you can tell they want their seventeen year old daughter to get on with it and have a boyfriend and be normal. But if I actually found a girl who liked me back, they'd probably try to tell me how school is more important and I shouldn't waste my time trying to label myself, et cetera et cetera.

I know, it's so creepy. She also found that I read/write a lot of slash, and the way she was talking, she seemed to think that it had somehow ruined my straightness. She said something about how she feels like she failed to "protect" me. I know she means well, but come on. Seriously? She makes me feel like I need to friend-lock everything.

[skepticeddie]

I think my parents are also nervous because they know that I'm not very good at flying under the radar, so they may think that their endorsement would give me permission to be as loudly, blatantly, and fabulously gay as I want. Which might then lead to social problems, because of the social unacceptability of being gay. However, the way to combat that is to combat the taboos of society, not to closet me. For me, at least, I know that my parents are fine with the idea of gay in theory and generally in practice. But I also think that they care a lot about my safety and my happiness and they don't want me to do anything that would jeopardize either of those things.

I've set my computer to delete my internet history. Depending on how the negotiations go this summer, I may also be deleting the "viewed" history of my youtube account, as well as logging myself out of all my accounts before letting anyone use my computer.

However, I'm hoping that everything goes well and don't have to.