In Which Artemis Delivers the Promised Rant

[artemisrampant]

 The radio show itself was very good, if a tiny bit condescending.  She mentioned that in many cases, the motivation behind bicurious experimentation among teenagers has to do with confusion more than anything else, and it does not mean that they are truly bi or gay.  That bugged me, because I hate it when adults imply that you can't trust how a

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[pargoletta]

One thing that I have observed over the years is that human sexuality -- female sexuality in particular -- tends to be more fluid than most people care to admit. There are days when I think that the pre-19th-century formulation of "I [like/have sex with] my own gender" may indeed be more useful than a categorical "I am gay" or "I am bi." Some people do decide in their teens that they are only attracted to one gender, and some people take longer to decide. Some people change their minds halfway through their lives.

The first thing she said was that most girls who think they are gay are just intimidated by boys, and think that it would be easier and less nerve-wracking to be with other girls.

Whether or not she's right about you, I think your mom does have the beginnings of a point here; there are an awful lot of girls who are gay in college and then "magically" discover boys once they've graduated (I believe that one less-than-polite term is "Daddy's Money Lesbians.") You seem pretty sure of yourself, so it probably doesn't apply in your particular case, but your mom isn't necessarily absolutely wrong.

This is probably something that will come out in the end through a series of conversations, some more difficult than others. I think that most moms probably do come around after a while, though; it may take them a while, but eventually, the basic, animal love for their babies reasserts itself.

[artemisrampant]

I know what you mean. I know that my mom was right about a few things in there. I was arguing because it felt like she was looking at the issue too narrowly, but I know there are plenty of girls like this.

Thank you so much for your response. I know she'll come around eventually, because she always has been a really great mom. I'm just nervous, and I guess anybody would be.