Family Drama!
Everybody has it at some point or another, the larger the family unit the more likely and more regularly it will occur: Family Dramas.
I come from a large extended family. The different strands and family members gets complicated after a while. There has been divorce after divorce, marriage after marriage, kids born, people died, things get messy and hugely complex. This is one of those times.
To put it simply; my dad's current girlfriend of 3 years hates my mum.
To put it in more detail; my dad's current girlfriend hates my mum and is my aunt's best mate. My aunt is my mum's sister. Which is where it all gets dramatic. To most this wouldn't be a problem, but my family is quite close knit and often 2 generations will be out drinking together. Often my cousins will invite my mum and Herself both out. Mum couldn't care less about Herself. So long as dad is happy and she doesn't hurt us mum is prepared to be civil about the whole thing. It's less than ideal but you can't help who you love and you can't chose your family.
If Herself knws that mum will be at a party, she won't got. She irrationally hates mum even though she's never said 2 words togther to her. About a month ago, at a leaving party for a cousin who wanted both mum and Herself there, she made it clear that mum's presence and ours around her friends (and our family) would be met with contempt and a playground level bullying campaign. Needless to say my sisters and I were less than impressed. Dad is working abroad so there's nothing that he can do, but Herself no longer comes to see him if any one of us is home, she makes him come to her, and when he tried to take her on holiday for her birthday she went mental at him for offering to
pay. Frankly I think the woman is a little unstable and she's done little to endear herself to my siblings and I over the last 30 months.
It gets better. My cousin is getting married. He wants my mum there, he wants Herself there. He knows that if he invites both, Herself won't come, if he invites mum and not Herself my aunt will be offended and if he invites Herself and not my mum then me, my siblings, and my grandfather will be offended. My siblings and I have told him as much. It's not fair but this is what the woman has brought us too, the way that she treats us, cuts us off from our family so that she can maintain her hold over dad is stupid, but she does it. Mum us bent over backwards to not step on the woman's toes but I think the time has come to say enough. It's time that Herself grew up and if it takes me and my sisters lowering ourselves to her mental ability we will. We did it once, to mum when she was seeing a man we despised because he did nothing but hurt her and patronise us, we can do it again, with ease.
Never mess with the kids!
I come from a large extended family. The different strands and family members gets complicated after a while. There has been divorce after divorce, marriage after marriage, kids born, people died, things get messy and hugely complex. This is one of those times.
To put it simply; my dad's current girlfriend of 3 years hates my mum.
To put it in more detail; my dad's current girlfriend hates my mum and is my aunt's best mate. My aunt is my mum's sister. Which is where it all gets dramatic. To most this wouldn't be a problem, but my family is quite close knit and often 2 generations will be out drinking together. Often my cousins will invite my mum and Herself both out. Mum couldn't care less about Herself. So long as dad is happy and she doesn't hurt us mum is prepared to be civil about the whole thing. It's less than ideal but you can't help who you love and you can't chose your family.
If Herself knws that mum will be at a party, she won't got. She irrationally hates mum even though she's never said 2 words togther to her. About a month ago, at a leaving party for a cousin who wanted both mum and Herself there, she made it clear that mum's presence and ours around her friends (and our family) would be met with contempt and a playground level bullying campaign. Needless to say my sisters and I were less than impressed. Dad is working abroad so there's nothing that he can do, but Herself no longer comes to see him if any one of us is home, she makes him come to her, and when he tried to take her on holiday for her birthday she went mental at him for offering to
pay. Frankly I think the woman is a little unstable and she's done little to endear herself to my siblings and I over the last 30 months.
It gets better. My cousin is getting married. He wants my mum there, he wants Herself there. He knows that if he invites both, Herself won't come, if he invites mum and not Herself my aunt will be offended and if he invites Herself and not my mum then me, my siblings, and my grandfather will be offended. My siblings and I have told him as much. It's not fair but this is what the woman has brought us too, the way that she treats us, cuts us off from our family so that she can maintain her hold over dad is stupid, but she does it. Mum us bent over backwards to not step on the woman's toes but I think the time has come to say enough. It's time that Herself grew up and if it takes me and my sisters lowering ourselves to her mental ability we will. We did it once, to mum when she was seeing a man we despised because he did nothing but hurt her and patronise us, we can do it again, with ease.
Never mess with the kids!