Dr. Phils words of Wisdom (ha gotta love Letterman)
Upon returning from my workout yesterday afternoon, I turned on la tele, and was immediately drawn to Dr. Phil. Now before any of you crack a smile and say to yourselves, “Why is Bun watching that show?”, let me write what the show was about. A family from a smaller community had written Dr. Phil, explaining to him that they thought their 19 year old son had been inappropriately touching his younger brothers' female friends. There were even allegations that he had touched his own 2 year old sister's vagina.
The young man sternly denied all the allegations. Apparently, other children's fathers had contacted his parents about incidents also. After Dr. Phil put the young man through a voluntary extensive lie detector test we found out if the accusations were warranted. Of course, the young man admitted to being a pathological liar to try and skew the results but in the end he admitted to several sexual acts, including touching his own sister. Immediately after the results were read, his devastated father could be heard saying, “Your dead to us” towards his own son.
As i sat there in awe of the courage not only of the family but of the young man to stand up and admit he needed help, I couldn't help but get emotional. Had I been in the fathers place, what would I have done after hearing the heart breaking news. I honestly do not know. This actual episode was a follow up show to the initial one and we were informed of the changes in the family's life after the removal of their 19 year old sexual predator son.
The mother was the only one who wanted to see her son after the show.
“Let him be, let him go on with his life,” his father angrily stated.
“He's still my son,” cried his mother.
Throughout this whole ordeal, she has been the only one to show any hint of an unconditional love. The father was upset when she sent her son a book about forgiveness along with a care package that consisted of your basic candy. I tried to put myself in everyone shoes as I evaluated their emotions and actions.
On one end you have the father who can't find a way to forgive his own flesh and blood for violating someone, especially someone in the family. He admitted his dead comment was in anger but still doesn't know if he can ever forgive his son for this despicable act. His two brothers don't even want to mention his name. In fact, they call him a monster around his mother. Who can blame them?
On the other end, you have the mother and her unconditional love for her son. You have the mother who wants the son she knows back and not the “monster” that her family now knows. Who can blame her?
And in the middle we have the 19 year old sexual predator who is now in California getting help for his sickness. We have someone who at least stood up and tried to shove himself in the right direction. He is now alone, with only the motherly soul to tell him she still loves him. He is, after all, her son who needs help, a lot of help.
The young man sternly denied all the allegations. Apparently, other children's fathers had contacted his parents about incidents also. After Dr. Phil put the young man through a voluntary extensive lie detector test we found out if the accusations were warranted. Of course, the young man admitted to being a pathological liar to try and skew the results but in the end he admitted to several sexual acts, including touching his own sister. Immediately after the results were read, his devastated father could be heard saying, “Your dead to us” towards his own son.
As i sat there in awe of the courage not only of the family but of the young man to stand up and admit he needed help, I couldn't help but get emotional. Had I been in the fathers place, what would I have done after hearing the heart breaking news. I honestly do not know. This actual episode was a follow up show to the initial one and we were informed of the changes in the family's life after the removal of their 19 year old sexual predator son.
The mother was the only one who wanted to see her son after the show.
“Let him be, let him go on with his life,” his father angrily stated.
“He's still my son,” cried his mother.
Throughout this whole ordeal, she has been the only one to show any hint of an unconditional love. The father was upset when she sent her son a book about forgiveness along with a care package that consisted of your basic candy. I tried to put myself in everyone shoes as I evaluated their emotions and actions.
On one end you have the father who can't find a way to forgive his own flesh and blood for violating someone, especially someone in the family. He admitted his dead comment was in anger but still doesn't know if he can ever forgive his son for this despicable act. His two brothers don't even want to mention his name. In fact, they call him a monster around his mother. Who can blame them?
On the other end, you have the mother and her unconditional love for her son. You have the mother who wants the son she knows back and not the “monster” that her family now knows. Who can blame her?
And in the middle we have the 19 year old sexual predator who is now in California getting help for his sickness. We have someone who at least stood up and tried to shove himself in the right direction. He is now alone, with only the motherly soul to tell him she still loves him. He is, after all, her son who needs help, a lot of help.