Today's DailyOM Offerings...
July 13, 2015
The Self-Compassion Diet
Jean Fain
2011
A Step-by-Step Program to Lose Weight with Loving-Kindness
Self-Love: Your Greatest Guide on the Path to Healthy Weight
The secret to sustainable weight loss isn’t counting calories or depriving yourself at the dinner table. Jean Fain tells us it’s about cultivating awareness and self-acceptance wherever you are. With The Self-Compassion Diet, this Harvard Medical School-affiliated psychotherapist prescribes a practical program for transforming the way you think and feel about food and your whole self-a shift that, paradoxically, inspires physical change.
Combining loving-kindness, self-hypnosis, and other winning weight-loss strategies, The Self-Compassion Diet is available in two complementary formats to help you naturally progress toward genuine self-acceptance and a healthy, sustainable weight.
With more than 30 different tools including quizzes, breathing exercises, and visualizations, the book explores four powerful weight-loss methods. The audio edition guides you through 11 key practices described in the book. Used together, this powerful combination can speed learning and boost success. Additional topics include:
-- How to appreciate the everyday activity of eating, and learn to trust your body’s signals that it’s nourished
-- Gradual change-a guided visualization for developing mindful eating habits
-- A meditation for getting to know the diet coach who knows you best-your compassionate inner advisor
“Most dieters try to ‘kill cravings’ and break habits with self-discipline,” teaches Fain. “Self-kindness can help quiet the shame that traditional diets instill, and establish a harmonious relationship with food.” The Self-Compassion Diet book and audio offer a treasury of heart-opening mind-body teachings and practices for improving the way you live, breathe, and eat.
2 CDs (1 hour, 45 minutes)
July 13, 2015
Faithful Devotion
Sagittarius Daily Horoscope
You may have the opportunity today to recognize your devotion to your relationship. It could be that you see something in the media or in the lives of others that gives you a reason to consider your loyalty. Or perhaps you are presented with a choice that gives you a chance to inwardly reaffirm your faithfulness. This could leave you feeling trustworthy and proud of your decision. Life constantly offers options, and every choice we make is an act of reaffirming who we are and who we choose to be. We can change our mind at any moment, but knowing ourselves at our core helps us to direct our choices to build the lives we want to live. Today, as we acknowledge the relationships we’ve built, we choose once again to devote ourselves to them.
Living in a world of duality means that we often can’t experience the positive without having an understanding of the negative. In relationships, this can mean that we become comfortable and may not always be aware of everything our relationship gives us until we have something to compare it with. We don’t need to experience the opposite or put our relationship in danger in order to remind ourselves. We need only to think of our past experiences or those of our friends and family members to know the many manifestations of relationships. Other times we may look at our partner and instantly be filled with gratitude for them. Whatever causes you to appreciate your relationship today can joyfully renew your faith and devotion.
July 13, 2015
Emotional Attacks
Choosing Not To Be A Target
by Madisyn Taylor
You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own.
Hurtful confrontations often leave us feeling drained and confused. When someone attacks us emotionally, we may wonder what we did to rouse their anger, and we take their actions personally. We may ask ourselves what we could have done to compel them to behave or speak that way toward us. It’s important to remember that there are no real targets in an emotional attack and that it is usually a way for the attacker to redirect their uncomfortable feelings away from themselves. When people are overcome by strong emotions, like hurt or anguish, they may see themselves as victims and lash out at others as a means of protection or to make themselves feel better. You may be able to shield yourself from an emotional attack by not taking the behavior personally. First, however, it is good to cultivate a state of detachment that can provide you with some protection from the person who is attacking you. This will allow you to feel compassion for this person and remember that their beha! vior isn’t as much about you as it is about their need to vent their emotions.
If you have difficulty remaining unaffected by someone’s behavior, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that you didn’t do anything wrong, and you aren’t responsible for people’s feelings. If you can see that this person is indirectly expressing a need to you-whether they are reaching out for help or wanting to be heard-you may be able to diffuse the attack by getting them to talk about what is really bothering them.
You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness.
The Self-Compassion Diet
Jean Fain
2011
A Step-by-Step Program to Lose Weight with Loving-Kindness
Self-Love: Your Greatest Guide on the Path to Healthy Weight
The secret to sustainable weight loss isn’t counting calories or depriving yourself at the dinner table. Jean Fain tells us it’s about cultivating awareness and self-acceptance wherever you are. With The Self-Compassion Diet, this Harvard Medical School-affiliated psychotherapist prescribes a practical program for transforming the way you think and feel about food and your whole self-a shift that, paradoxically, inspires physical change.
Combining loving-kindness, self-hypnosis, and other winning weight-loss strategies, The Self-Compassion Diet is available in two complementary formats to help you naturally progress toward genuine self-acceptance and a healthy, sustainable weight.
With more than 30 different tools including quizzes, breathing exercises, and visualizations, the book explores four powerful weight-loss methods. The audio edition guides you through 11 key practices described in the book. Used together, this powerful combination can speed learning and boost success. Additional topics include:
-- How to appreciate the everyday activity of eating, and learn to trust your body’s signals that it’s nourished
-- Gradual change-a guided visualization for developing mindful eating habits
-- A meditation for getting to know the diet coach who knows you best-your compassionate inner advisor
“Most dieters try to ‘kill cravings’ and break habits with self-discipline,” teaches Fain. “Self-kindness can help quiet the shame that traditional diets instill, and establish a harmonious relationship with food.” The Self-Compassion Diet book and audio offer a treasury of heart-opening mind-body teachings and practices for improving the way you live, breathe, and eat.
2 CDs (1 hour, 45 minutes)
July 13, 2015
Faithful Devotion
Sagittarius Daily Horoscope
You may have the opportunity today to recognize your devotion to your relationship. It could be that you see something in the media or in the lives of others that gives you a reason to consider your loyalty. Or perhaps you are presented with a choice that gives you a chance to inwardly reaffirm your faithfulness. This could leave you feeling trustworthy and proud of your decision. Life constantly offers options, and every choice we make is an act of reaffirming who we are and who we choose to be. We can change our mind at any moment, but knowing ourselves at our core helps us to direct our choices to build the lives we want to live. Today, as we acknowledge the relationships we’ve built, we choose once again to devote ourselves to them.
Living in a world of duality means that we often can’t experience the positive without having an understanding of the negative. In relationships, this can mean that we become comfortable and may not always be aware of everything our relationship gives us until we have something to compare it with. We don’t need to experience the opposite or put our relationship in danger in order to remind ourselves. We need only to think of our past experiences or those of our friends and family members to know the many manifestations of relationships. Other times we may look at our partner and instantly be filled with gratitude for them. Whatever causes you to appreciate your relationship today can joyfully renew your faith and devotion.
July 13, 2015
Emotional Attacks
Choosing Not To Be A Target
by Madisyn Taylor
You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own.
Hurtful confrontations often leave us feeling drained and confused. When someone attacks us emotionally, we may wonder what we did to rouse their anger, and we take their actions personally. We may ask ourselves what we could have done to compel them to behave or speak that way toward us. It’s important to remember that there are no real targets in an emotional attack and that it is usually a way for the attacker to redirect their uncomfortable feelings away from themselves. When people are overcome by strong emotions, like hurt or anguish, they may see themselves as victims and lash out at others as a means of protection or to make themselves feel better. You may be able to shield yourself from an emotional attack by not taking the behavior personally. First, however, it is good to cultivate a state of detachment that can provide you with some protection from the person who is attacking you. This will allow you to feel compassion for this person and remember that their beha! vior isn’t as much about you as it is about their need to vent their emotions.
If you have difficulty remaining unaffected by someone’s behavior, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that you didn’t do anything wrong, and you aren’t responsible for people’s feelings. If you can see that this person is indirectly expressing a need to you-whether they are reaching out for help or wanting to be heard-you may be able to diffuse the attack by getting them to talk about what is really bothering them.
You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness.