Talking about the pickup - when my younger brother finally got his driving license, my dad helped him buy a sexy mini-'vette he wanted (and never tried to micromanage his life). My dad helped him buy his first home. My parents took him and his family on vacations every year for many years - and when we nearly lost our home (after I could no longer do the sort of thing I used to but also was denied disability), my dad went ballistic when my mom offered to help us out. We owe them for the aid they gave (paid off our used mobile home before the banks evicted us).
Sue still expresses anger and resentment every now and then over the preferential treatment and outright assistance my brother received but was openly denied to us. (From comments that were made, I gather I'm supposed to learn some sort of 'lesson' from that treatment.)
My half uncle got the same sort of assistance like my brother got btw. His treatment of his oldest daughter, however, was worse than the treatment meted out to my dad and from all accounts, far worse than what I was put through. He is a real scumbag (and pretty wealthy) - repeatedly accused of rape for instance (but always gotten off the hook). I was in my early 50s when he and my aunt first treated me like a human being - a change so drastic my mother commented on it (and has commented about it since then).
My dad has changed lately - and has started hinting at the things he'd been put through and has been kinder to us (I think partially because my neices are grown and my brother now spends more time with them). I think he's finally starting to heal. I hope that he lives far longer so that he can really heal (and I would like to have a real father-son relationship with him, which I must say has started in the last few years).
Sue still expresses anger and resentment every now and then over the preferential treatment and outright assistance my brother received but was openly denied to us. (From comments that were made, I gather I'm supposed to learn some sort of 'lesson' from that treatment.)
My half uncle got the same sort of assistance like my brother got btw. His treatment of his oldest daughter, however, was worse than the treatment meted out to my dad and from all accounts, far worse than what I was put through. He is a real scumbag (and pretty wealthy) - repeatedly accused of rape for instance (but always gotten off the hook). I was in my early 50s when he and my aunt first treated me like a human being - a change so drastic my mother commented on it (and has commented about it since then).
My dad has changed lately - and has started hinting at the things he'd been put through and has been kinder to us (I think partially because my neices are grown and my brother now spends more time with them). I think he's finally starting to heal. I hope that he lives far longer so that he can really heal (and I would like to have a real father-son relationship with him, which I must say has started in the last few years).
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