1) If you are going to resign, never give them a reason. If you give them a reason it does two things: first, it gives them the impression that this is a negotiation--if they offer to fix this thing or that thing, then you might be willing to come back. Second, it makes someone angry or unhappy but it almost never leads to change. You are leaving, after all. It gives them the impression that you couldn't take something that the rest of the staff didn't mind. It makes it easier for them to make you the problem.
2) If this is a negotiation (if, with changes, you are willing to keep working there), prepare for not having this job and you are in the best position to make changes. The fact that your contract is almost up means that they have to work to keep you, not that you have to work to stay there. This is the most power you are going to have, from a negotiating standpoint. Pick one or two demands and make them simply and clearly (in writing). No fighting, no recrimination, just "if I am to accept the contract, I would like these conditions to be met."
3) If you intend to quit, set a clear goal for yourself prior to quitting. For example, two months worth of money or by February 28th. A clear goal gives you a line that you can cross. Then you have less room to feel bad or good and relax or whatever. You know that by this date or this much money, you are done.
My most simple advice, however, is to treat it like a business transaction. No anger, no regrets. Just a business deal that didn't quite work out. This isn't a big deal. It is the kind of thing that happens all the time. Just keep reminding yourself of that. This isn't FAILURE or FREEDOM. It is just another day.
*snugs* Wombat powaaa! *curls up and tries to summon Wombat willpower*
Thank you so much for the advice, Dan. I really need a clear mind to help me sort this stuff, and everyone at work sees quitting as sort of.. unthinkable -I don't think not being employed for a bit is the end of the world, and indeed for me it isn't, given that I don't support myself and that I have savings..- and t my home my parents are worried I won't get a job for a long while. Which.. is a possibility, but not something that worries me too much either. I can always go back to freelancing until I find something that I actually like...
I don't think that me quitting would be a negotiation, so you're right in that it would be useless to give any explanations. I don't want to stay, unless they were to give me the job I was promised, which was never real. And I have problems with the company's policies themselves, so the job the offered me I know it's impossible to get, simply because the bosses are.. not very good at what they should be doing, and I'll always have to drift a lot.
I *think* my date of notice should be the first week of February, so I get to pay for Christmas gifts and save some money during January. I want to be free by March, that much I know. Unless it magically turns into the best job ever, which I doubt...
It is the kind of thing that happens all the time. Just keep reminding yourself of that. This isn't FAILURE or FREEDOM.
It does feel like failure a tad, but I'll embrace your words like a mantra. It is not my fault. Perhaps it's nobody's fault. It just didn't pan out and it was a bad moment for me and the company to converge. *breathes* I do what I can... *hugs*
(UNRELATED AWESOME: YOU'RE PRESENT IS IN THE MAAAAIL! X)
1) If you are going to resign, never give them a reason. If you give them a reason it does two things: first, it gives them the impression that this is a negotiation--if they offer to fix this thing or that thing, then you might be willing to come back. Second, it makes someone angry or unhappy but it almost never leads to change. You are leaving, after all. It gives them the impression that you couldn't take something that the rest of the staff didn't mind. It makes it easier for them to make you the problem.
2) If this is a negotiation (if, with changes, you are willing to keep working there), prepare for not having this job and you are in the best position to make changes. The fact that your contract is almost up means that they have to work to keep you, not that you have to work to stay there. This is the most power you are going to have, from a negotiating standpoint. Pick one or two demands and make them simply and clearly (in writing). No fighting, no recrimination, just "if I am to accept the contract, I would like these conditions to be met."
3) If you intend to quit, set a clear goal for yourself prior to quitting. For example, two months worth of money or by February 28th. A clear goal gives you a line that you can cross. Then you have less room to feel bad or good and relax or whatever. You know that by this date or this much money, you are done.
My most simple advice, however, is to treat it like a business transaction. No anger, no regrets. Just a business deal that didn't quite work out. This isn't a big deal. It is the kind of thing that happens all the time. Just keep reminding yourself of that. This isn't FAILURE or FREEDOM. It is just another day.
And, as always... *wombat powaa*
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Thank you so much for the advice, Dan. I really need a clear mind to help me sort this stuff, and everyone at work sees quitting as sort of.. unthinkable -I don't think not being employed for a bit is the end of the world, and indeed for me it isn't, given that I don't support myself and that I have savings..- and t my home my parents are worried I won't get a job for a long while. Which.. is a possibility, but not something that worries me too much either. I can always go back to freelancing until I find something that I actually like...
I don't think that me quitting would be a negotiation, so you're right in that it would be useless to give any explanations. I don't want to stay, unless they were to give me the job I was promised, which was never real. And I have problems with the company's policies themselves, so the job the offered me I know it's impossible to get, simply because the bosses are.. not very good at what they should be doing, and I'll always have to drift a lot.
I *think* my date of notice should be the first week of February, so I get to pay for Christmas gifts and save some money during January. I want to be free by March, that much I know. Unless it magically turns into the best job ever, which I doubt...
It is the kind of thing that happens all the time. Just keep reminding yourself of that. This isn't FAILURE or FREEDOM.
It does feel like failure a tad, but I'll embrace your words like a mantra. It is not my fault. Perhaps it's nobody's fault. It just didn't pan out and it was a bad moment for me and the company to converge. *breathes* I do what I can... *hugs*
(UNRELATED AWESOME: YOU'RE PRESENT IS IN THE MAAAAIL! X)
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