communication failure
How is it, that when I speak to my mother in plain simple english, she only seems to understand about a quarter of what I say? And unfortunately, this defecit seems to go both ways, because I understand maybe half of what she claims to have said as well. And I am not even thinking or processing the information in the language in question.
Both of us can make ourselves reasonably understood by *other* people. And the subjects in question can be as simple as plans to go somewhere and get something taken care of. Simple when, where and how logistics. Somehow it still falls apart, and is then, of course, *my* fault.
Nevermind the defecit when trying to communicte less tangible things.... " I need to spend these two weeks on myself, being selfish." I say.
"Ok, so I'll just stay out of your way and leave you alone." she says then.
2 days later "When are things going to change around here. What are you going to do for me? Things have to change." she says.
Leads me to wonder where the comprehension was? I couldn't even bring it up again right then, because it would have gotten me nowhere.
I know that heron and I *have* to spend this 2 weeks we have off of school taking care of ourselves, because we are terribly burnt out, and still want to run away from *everything*
In fact, we wanted to really badly this morning, and instead spent it working on school, only to have the plans fall through because of poor communication. WHich led to non-productive argument. Which led to further stress, and us hibernating instead of being productive.
Both of us can make ourselves reasonably understood by *other* people. And the subjects in question can be as simple as plans to go somewhere and get something taken care of. Simple when, where and how logistics. Somehow it still falls apart, and is then, of course, *my* fault.
Nevermind the defecit when trying to communicte less tangible things.... " I need to spend these two weeks on myself, being selfish." I say.
"Ok, so I'll just stay out of your way and leave you alone." she says then.
2 days later "When are things going to change around here. What are you going to do for me? Things have to change." she says.
Leads me to wonder where the comprehension was? I couldn't even bring it up again right then, because it would have gotten me nowhere.
I know that heron and I *have* to spend this 2 weeks we have off of school taking care of ourselves, because we are terribly burnt out, and still want to run away from *everything*
In fact, we wanted to really badly this morning, and instead spent it working on school, only to have the plans fall through because of poor communication. WHich led to non-productive argument. Which led to further stress, and us hibernating instead of being productive.