Comments | arcanapi: My philosophical musing

arcanapi

My philosophical musing

May 18, 2004 21:42

This occurred to me about the "right" person and such... Much inspired by Crudmonkey's determinism/free will debate.

Don't get me wrong, I'm definitely not angsting. It's more an interesting thought of my day. :D

( Don't read if you don't feel in the mood for random shit. :D )

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yay! hehehe crudmonkey May 18 2004, 19:18:10 UTC

But IS there a "right" person? I mean, I'm all about Determinism... but if you look at it, could there be more than one perfect mate? maybe you only meet one of them, so it's all good.. but then what happens if you divorce and find new love? Is one of them less of the "right" one than the other? even if the original was "right" at the time?

... eh just trying to provoke thoughts, I guess. so I'll stop now. yay :)

Re: yay! hehehe arcanapi May 18 2004, 19:24:09 UTC

Oh, true. And it's like you fit your personality to the "right" person, making you right for one person but then "wrong" for someone else. Like the induced fit model of enzyme function in biology...

Re: yay! hehehe gila_elegans May 20 2004, 15:29:50 UTC

*grin*

Induced fit always makes me think of an enzyme having a heart attack. Except I always pictured it as a convulsing blob. *cough*

Anywhoo, there's this interesting theory out there that's kinda a mix of fate and free will. It's something like there isn't A "perfect mate" out there, so to speak, but a number of different "levels" of people you're compatible with, from "I wouldn't mate with you if you were the last person on Earth" to "Ohmigod! You're the love of my life!" and all levels of people in between, and the number of people in each level get smaller and smaller each step up (something like a bullseye). What level of person you end up with is based on your actions and choices, and as you go through life, people might move up and down the levels, but every potential partner fits into there somewhere...fodder for thought :P

Re: yay! hehehe arcanapi May 20 2004, 18:45:13 UTC

Then let's hope one's aim improves as one gets older. ;)

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glub_glub May 18 2004, 20:24:35 UTC

I think that the "right" person for you changes as you develop your personality. I mean, you can be totally *IN LOVE* with one person for years, and be totally convinced that he/she is The One, but then as your personality changes and theirs changes, you become "wrong" and a new "right" person may appear. I also think that everyone has more than one "right" person. Technically, the person who you think of as your Best Friend (of the same sex, if you're heterosexual) could potentially be your "right" person, but your current personality (heterosexual) doesn't allow you to see that. Same thing if you're homosexual with your best friend of the opposite gender. They may be your soul mate, but you don't think of them as The One because your personality is telling you you're romantically attracted to people of the same sex as you. This is why everybody needs to keep an open mind on bisexuality, so that they can see the "right" person despite their gender. That's all for my social issues musings. Ciao.

riko May 19 2004, 15:39:48 UTC

YES!!!!! Right on the MARK.
mean.
Fuck, I love you, Kate. In any way you'd like that to

riko May 19 2004, 15:41:04 UTC

And now, because that somehow changed in posting, I meant to say:

YES!!!!! Right on the MARK.

Fuck, I love you, Kate. In any way you'd like that to mean.

glub_glub May 19 2004, 19:25:45 UTC

Heh. I love you too. And you wouldn't believe how much I appreciate someone actually *agreeing* with my POV on a social issue. That like, never happens, lately.

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