To those PPCers who are squabbling:
Do you remember this?
GreyLadyBast
I thought we agreed to limit these threads
Sat Apr 24, 2004 7:22am
152.163.252.200
To one update every two weeks? What happened to that idea? Honestly, not even one day after the "Big Discussion" and nothing has changed?
Bast, frowning in disapproval
Huinesoron
Bast...
Sat Apr 24, 2004 10:54am
217.42.119.4
If you read the responses to where that was said you will find this:
Milano
Me too.
Sat Apr 24, 2004 4:53am
213.89.107.20
*is a little embarassed* I did one of those posts about LJ yesterday before I saw this thread, but I think that's a great idea too.
A little tolerance for error goes a long way, even if you are an immortal, all-powerful Goddess. ;)
hS
GreyLadyBast
hS, why are you on my case so much lately?
Sat Apr 24, 2004 1:23pm
205.188.116.65
Why is it that Milano can post something before having seen a thread, and I cannot? Because that is exactly what happened----I posted the scold before I saw the *is a little embarrassed* thread.
Let me remind everyone AGAIN that I am NOT a real goddess. I just play one on the &^%@& internet, and I am very, very sick of being hassled for daring to not be perfect IRL.
So excuuuuuuuuuuuuse me.
Bast, pissed off
Bjam
*feels like she should interrupt*
Sat Apr 24, 2004 1:31pm
68.82.133.62
hS. Bast. Cool it. Now
You two find little niggley things a lot of the time about each other, and you both seem to fan the flames. Just... stop it. You are both respected people of this community and you should NOT go around being rude to each other(which ou both were doing) I don't care if you have some deep-seated mutual hatred for one another, don't spill it onto the Board.
So just cool it.
Bjam, getting even more angry and upset with herself for even bringing up this letter
Ok, that's it. I'm out. Bye! (nm) - GreyLadyBast, Sat Apr 24 1:51pm
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To top it all off, there came this message via Vemi:
Vemi
Calling Milano and hS
Sat Apr 24, 2004 4:31pm
80.176.174.28
I don't think there's any easy way to say this but, well, GreyLadyBast has left. Gone. She asked me to leave this note for her, because she doesn't want to come back here again.
Milano, she says that she wants you to know she isn't at all angry with you, she's angry at hS.
hS...yes, she's angry with you. Very angry. You know why she's angry with you, and please don't ask me to give her a message on it or anything, because I don't want to get stuck in the middle of an argument that isn't really anything to do with me.
GLB also asked me to tell everyone here that whilst you're here, hS, there is no way she's coming back. She also says that she's not asking anybody to choose between the two of you, which I'm very glad of, and she isn't asking you to leave so she can come back, either. Just so long as you know why she left.
Remember, I'm just the messenger!
~Vemi, on behalf of GreyLadyBast
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No? Well, how about this?
From hS's (public) LJ, April 15th, 2004
One person, who I thought was my friend, hates me. Has done for a few days now. I should probably try and contact her, but guess what - I can't be bothered.
Why do I bother at all? Why don't I just lie here until I starve? Oh, wait, I know - my parents pester me. Lovely. Thanks, guys.
Bjam:*hugs* I know I'm not a great friend, but if you ever do need to rant feel free to do so.
Greyladybast:I never hated you. I don't hate anyone, let alone you.
I'm just...tired. Tired of being ragged on for more or less everything I posted, on both boards. Not critisized, ragged on. Whether you meant things like that or not, that is how it came across to me.
I'm tired of constantly being told I'm overreacting, now matter what kind of reaction I have to anything. All the time, if I show any emotion that's not shiny-happiness, I get told I'm overreacting. When I was a child and a gang of eight or ten kids would pick on me, if I didn't just sit there and take it, I was overreacting. The times my brother verbally abused me to the point of just wanting to die, I was overreacting. When one of the Lost Loves of my life up and decided he valued his crappy job over me, thus breaking my fragile heart into a zillion pieces, I was overreacting. For Christ's sake, the time my ex-husband cheated on me and abandoned me to be with his girlfriend while I was pregnant with his child, I was overreacting.
When am I not overreacting? When am I not the bad guy? Am I ever not the bad guy? Am I allowed any reaction at all? Ever?
Anyway, I don't hate you, I never did hate you, I never will hate you.
But it still hurts. A lot.
Bast
huinesoron:Woah, woah, that wasn't about you. Sorry.
But... yes, I did rather think you hated me. Thanks for saying this.
BUt yeah, I'm sorry. I think, in this case, I was the one who overreacted. I shouldn't have. I didn't realise I was doing it, but... yeah.
... blast it, I end up arguing with my own defenders. I keep claiming all the blame. Which really annoys them.
So -- sorry. Please don't go offline. And if -- when -- you do come back, I won't do it again. 'kay?
But please come back.
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It sounds a bit familiar to what's going on in greyladybast's LJ, no?
Okay, then. This is a long-standing issue. It needs to be dealt with, and not left to burst elsewhere. There will come a time when the Board needs a consensus as to whether to allow a certain spin-off, or what is acceptable PPCing policy, or something of that nature, from the people who are leaders on there. That would be you three, even if you think you're not. Bjam and Bast, this applies especially to you--you are the original Official Permission Givers for the Board.
I commend you for keeping it on LJ thus far. However, since I think all of you want to participate on the Board with a minimum of animosity, and not breed bad feeling among the PPCers on LJ, we need to resolve this. Even if the resolution is keeping each other at arms' length and/or communicating indirectly, as little as possible, with each other.
Are you game?
~Araeph