The Thing About Love...
Something I find interesting as I get to know more people and hear more stories about relationships...
It seems relationships wear people out. Or more specifically, bad ones do. The ones that leave us going "Why did I ever put up with him/her for that long?" The ones where we feel we've poured our hearts into it to end up with nothing but a bitter taste in our mouth. Then we swear off love, or at least "head over heels" love. Why risk falling when there seems more of a chance of you crashing and burning than being caught by the one you love?
My head says: It's not fair.
How can you expect the next relationship to work out/be better if you're not willing to put everything you have into it?
I guess I can understand caution. Entering a relationship with caution and slowly building the trust and feelings that are needed for success... but when are you holding yourself back too much? When have you reached that line of "not fair"?
"I've been burned before so I can't love you like that." - Does this not show a lack of trust? I feel like it's a level of trust that should be there...
Or has our society become too chaotic, unpredictable, untrustworthy... that this trust is now only for fools and the ones without it are the ones with safety mechanisms?
I'm not sure I was really trying to go anywhere with this... I just had these thoughts and questions floating around my head for a while.
It seems relationships wear people out. Or more specifically, bad ones do. The ones that leave us going "Why did I ever put up with him/her for that long?" The ones where we feel we've poured our hearts into it to end up with nothing but a bitter taste in our mouth. Then we swear off love, or at least "head over heels" love. Why risk falling when there seems more of a chance of you crashing and burning than being caught by the one you love?
My head says: It's not fair.
How can you expect the next relationship to work out/be better if you're not willing to put everything you have into it?
I guess I can understand caution. Entering a relationship with caution and slowly building the trust and feelings that are needed for success... but when are you holding yourself back too much? When have you reached that line of "not fair"?
"I've been burned before so I can't love you like that." - Does this not show a lack of trust? I feel like it's a level of trust that should be there...
Or has our society become too chaotic, unpredictable, untrustworthy... that this trust is now only for fools and the ones without it are the ones with safety mechanisms?
I'm not sure I was really trying to go anywhere with this... I just had these thoughts and questions floating around my head for a while.