I think Erin did a good job of letting me know that I have a pattern and what that pattern was. I knew it existed, but never recognized it as a pattern until she mentioned it. It may be harder to break my pattern than I thought though since the only characteristic that most of my dating/crush history have in common is they're nice and sweet but go for guys who aren't. It's very Breakfast Club in that way.
My struggle with that is I'm not picky when it comes to dating at all. Sure, I have preferrences and pet peeves, but I'll give anyone a chance. Essentially, if there's no good reason not to give it a shot, you may as well. I thought that this was a good thing and that others felt this way, but as I've gotten older I've realized that I'm unique in this trait. It's sad to find this as a shock.
Your friends statement has a lot of truth, something I'm realizing more tonight. I know of a few people with complex personalities that I'd love to date, but they seem to have no interest in me whatsoever. I received some suggestions as to what to do to steer things in my direction tonight, but don't want to take her advice. Not because I'm difficult, but because she gave me the, "people like confident people" when I think she meant that she does. Obviously it's not always true. I'm drawn to friends, acquaintances and people who exhibit quirks and aren't the perfect example of poise.
On a related note, it's easier to shake crushes when they disappoint you, as was the case with Bree tonight. She shared a few too many wreckless stories that disappointed me and it's safe to say that my crush is done for a number of reasons. This had *better* produce a few good songs or I'm not going to be happy.
My struggle with that is I'm not picky when it comes to dating at all. Sure, I have preferrences and pet peeves, but I'll give anyone a chance. Essentially, if there's no good reason not to give it a shot, you may as well. I thought that this was a good thing and that others felt this way, but as I've gotten older I've realized that I'm unique in this trait. It's sad to find this as a shock.
Your friends statement has a lot of truth, something I'm realizing more tonight. I know of a few people with complex personalities that I'd love to date, but they seem to have no interest in me whatsoever. I received some suggestions as to what to do to steer things in my direction tonight, but don't want to take her advice. Not because I'm difficult, but because she gave me the, "people like confident people" when I think she meant that she does. Obviously it's not always true. I'm drawn to friends, acquaintances and people who exhibit quirks and aren't the perfect example of poise.
On a related note, it's easier to shake crushes when they disappoint you, as was the case with Bree tonight. She shared a few too many wreckless stories that disappointed me and it's safe to say that my crush is done for a number of reasons. This had *better* produce a few good songs or I'm not going to be happy.
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