INTJs and relationships.
On reddit last night looking at the INTJ sub when I happened across a post that provided some insight for those who may be in a relationship with an INTJ.
There's a certain amount of truth to a number of the points. It's not all gospel.
The first one the first two sentences and the next to last sentence are totally off the mark for me personally. If I need to express my emotions and feel comfortable doing so with you I'll do it and in my own words too. I consider myself to be very creative so I don't feel any need to rely on the works of others as if they were...I don't know, a crutch? That doesn't mean I don't appreciate them.
On 2.2 end it before "and I want to be the ONE with you". I want something significant, absolutely. It should be important. Being the only one? There are plenty of great people out there (or so I'd like to believe if I could just meet more of them) but I don't see why I should close myself off from other relationships with people that I could have a relationship that I would rank (categorize if you prefer?) in the class of "soul mate". Where it's romantic in either an emotional or physical (possibly sexual) way or not.
Heh. I think what might be best is collecting all of these "the ONE" relationships and tallying them all up like a high score. Collecting them all and enjoying every one of them to provide maximum emotional or mental (etc.) satisfaction or happiness.
Five is meh depending on what the plans are. I would be more disappointed about canceling activities like hanging out or maybe hiking, or getting out in the snow or anything that I would have enjoyed doing with you. Unless we were planning to come up with (and execute?) a plan for world peace over dinner I'm not going to worry about canceling plans to stuff our faces.
Seven, "empathy is difficult because I am self-centered" nooo. Empathy is difficult because I care about the facts and I am analyzing the situation looking for a solution. I am so distracted with figuring out how to fix it I forget that some people like the reassurances that empathizing provides them. That's me, a racehorse with blinders on that's too focused on winning. (Tiger blood sold separately.)
Nine happens all the time and can be particularly frustrating when people want to argue things. I know that I am right because the information is buried in some nook or cranie in my mind but I'll be buggered if I can remember the exact quote, fact, or source of the knowledge. There are times when recalling the exact details of how it works (if it's not something I work with regularly) can be equally perplexing. I know how it works overall but the details I can be pretty fuzzy on.
There's a certain amount of truth to a number of the points. It's not all gospel.
The first one the first two sentences and the next to last sentence are totally off the mark for me personally. If I need to express my emotions and feel comfortable doing so with you I'll do it and in my own words too. I consider myself to be very creative so I don't feel any need to rely on the works of others as if they were...I don't know, a crutch? That doesn't mean I don't appreciate them.
On 2.2 end it before "and I want to be the ONE with you". I want something significant, absolutely. It should be important. Being the only one? There are plenty of great people out there (or so I'd like to believe if I could just meet more of them) but I don't see why I should close myself off from other relationships with people that I could have a relationship that I would rank (categorize if you prefer?) in the class of "soul mate". Where it's romantic in either an emotional or physical (possibly sexual) way or not.
Heh. I think what might be best is collecting all of these "the ONE" relationships and tallying them all up like a high score. Collecting them all and enjoying every one of them to provide maximum emotional or mental (etc.) satisfaction or happiness.
Five is meh depending on what the plans are. I would be more disappointed about canceling activities like hanging out or maybe hiking, or getting out in the snow or anything that I would have enjoyed doing with you. Unless we were planning to come up with (and execute?) a plan for world peace over dinner I'm not going to worry about canceling plans to stuff our faces.
Seven, "empathy is difficult because I am self-centered" nooo. Empathy is difficult because I care about the facts and I am analyzing the situation looking for a solution. I am so distracted with figuring out how to fix it I forget that some people like the reassurances that empathizing provides them. That's me, a racehorse with blinders on that's too focused on winning. (Tiger blood sold separately.)
Nine happens all the time and can be particularly frustrating when people want to argue things. I know that I am right because the information is buried in some nook or cranie in my mind but I'll be buggered if I can remember the exact quote, fact, or source of the knowledge. There are times when recalling the exact details of how it works (if it's not something I work with regularly) can be equally perplexing. I know how it works overall but the details I can be pretty fuzzy on.