"I gave birth" doesn't look a lot when you write it down, but it is far more than the sum of three words; and if men knew what it is like to go through that, you'd have got all the bravery medals possible. My sons have saved, supported and enriched my life so much, and I assume your son will do exactly the same because, contrary to current belief, teenagers aren't necessarily total little shits. He is your work in progress, and you would be quite right to be enormously proud of him.
But you have done far more than that, as things to add to your list. Where is your "supportive and loving wife"? That's no mean achievement, expect ally considering the way you've had to bite the bullet and put up with things; because you could have oh so easily just upped sticks and buggered off. You've also been ambitious, sought out specialist training, gone out and looked for a better job, done all sorts of things in order to improve your mind and your lot in life. Okay, it's turned out not to be the dream you expected, but you DID dream it, and you DID achieve it. That is a heck of a lot to be proud of in yourself. And now you've pushed yourself into writing fanfiction. Many talk about it, but you've actually done it - the first step to greatness in a completely different field of expertise. You're a braver soul than you give yourself credit for; and you really should, because taking that first step is the hardest thing of all. I know because I have many tell me that they can't do it.
And who is this horrible, uncaring person you talk of? I've not seen her through the stuff you've written to me in various ways. You've done nothing but be friendly, supportive, encouraging, and wonderful. No wonder I rushed to claim you as an adoptive daughter. Anybody who isn't prepared to wait patiently and see the real you, well, they're not worth worrying about. All they are is selfish. Now that you've written that list of all the horrible things people have said to you, take it and burn the bloody thing! You don't need to be defined by that. It isn't who you really are. You are worth far more than that. It doesn't matter what they say because deep in the core of you, you are a decent person; a person who can freely love and give to others. Judging by what you've said, you are exceptionally rare and should be cherished for being what they can't be.
So sod that list! It's only other people's negativity, not you. And the you that you have allowed me to see is beautiful. Just think how many other people you could make think that through the written word? Yes, I am right to be proud of you. Hopefully you will be proud of you too. * hugs*
It took me forever to respond to this because you've made me cry. I couldn't think of a proper response to such love, so all I have is this: I hardly ever think that anything I do, or have done, is considered "good". Just necessary. And maybe not even that.
I should print this out and take it with me everywhere I go, because it'll remind me how I do have someone (a couple) out there that do love, care, and support me.
I like to think that I am (mostly) an open book, so I do hope that you like what you see. I do have some deep, dark secrets (which we can talk about later, if you wish). But, I appreciate everything you have said to me, and yes, I will take it to heart and try to remember it.
But you have done far more than that, as things to add to your list. Where is your "supportive and loving wife"? That's no mean achievement, expect ally considering the way you've had to bite the bullet and put up with things; because you could have oh so easily just upped sticks and buggered off. You've also been ambitious, sought out specialist training, gone out and looked for a better job, done all sorts of things in order to improve your mind and your lot in life. Okay, it's turned out not to be the dream you expected, but you DID dream it, and you DID achieve it. That is a heck of a lot to be proud of in yourself. And now you've pushed yourself into writing fanfiction. Many talk about it, but you've actually done it - the first step to greatness in a completely different field of expertise. You're a braver soul than you give yourself credit for; and you really should, because taking that first step is the hardest thing of all. I know because I have many tell me that they can't do it.
And who is this horrible, uncaring person you talk of? I've not seen her through the stuff you've written to me in various ways. You've done nothing but be friendly, supportive, encouraging, and wonderful. No wonder I rushed to claim you as an adoptive daughter. Anybody who isn't prepared to wait patiently and see the real you, well, they're not worth worrying about. All they are is selfish. Now that you've written that list of all the horrible things people have said to you, take it and burn the bloody thing! You don't need to be defined by that. It isn't who you really are. You are worth far more than that. It doesn't matter what they say because deep in the core of you, you are a decent person; a person who can freely love and give to others. Judging by what you've said, you are exceptionally rare and should be cherished for being what they can't be.
So sod that list! It's only other people's negativity, not you. And the you that you have allowed me to see is beautiful. Just think how many other people you could make think that through the written word? Yes, I am right to be proud of you. Hopefully you will be proud of you too. * hugs*
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I should print this out and take it with me everywhere I go, because it'll remind me how I do have someone (a couple) out there that do love, care, and support me.
I like to think that I am (mostly) an open book, so I do hope that you like what you see. I do have some deep, dark secrets (which we can talk about later, if you wish). But, I appreciate everything you have said to me, and yes, I will take it to heart and try to remember it.
Thank you. <3 *hugs*
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