I think it is important to talk about there not being boundaries on sexuality or it having to be this way and that, but also I think you may get some flack for being "fake gay" or "faux gay" - ie gay for fasion or gay because it's cool and edgy (I don't know how I feel about this issue but I hear A LOT of criticism of it in the queer scene)
ALSO you keep getting official looking mail from the state of michigan here. maybe you should change your address.
also people are going to read the last statement as "i am gay but don't want to call myself gay" there is so much derision in the "gay" community. Something I always thought about you was that you would get called gay and harassed and then be like "I'm not even gay" Like it matters if you are really gay or not the mere fact that you are hassed for your sexuality (or assumed sexuality) is shitty enough and saying "I'm not even gay" takes on a lot of straight privilege. Also I don't like The Advocate because it is very assimilationist - like "hey straight people we are just like you" ie support gay marriage, have a lot of white, middle class privilege, and not very many poc in there. There is so much more I could say about this but too much for livejournal. If you want to talk about it in person i am around.
leave it to a straight person to think they know everything about gay people because they have a couple gay friends or kissed a member of their same sex a few times
what good would it do you to know who i am, you already know how i feel about you in real life so i am not copping out by posting anonymously, i only choose to do it because it removes your ability to throw stones and forces you to reflect
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wow you seem to be the one who likes telling people about sexuality. do you have any personal stake in this "discussion" or did you just want to get your jabs in? all i see here are personal attacks which don't make your arguments very valid. you're right though, those history classes i am taking really aren't helping me realize what's going on with everyone else's gender identity and sexual preferences.
i'm not sure if i'm completely understanding what you are saying. i never said i am anything to want to be anything. and i was never using an excuse for why i shouldn't get harrassed, i was just pointing out the basis of why it was coming to me. i like certain asthetics or whatever music, jobs, life, whatever and somehow certain ones are considered certain classification which turn out to have negative situations of accusations of trying to be fake something. it doens't make a lot of sense to me why would have to think that way. i'm not sure if you were saying i was or wasn't doing this?
I don't think you are doing fake anything. Once you said, after being harrassed, "...and I'm not even gay" which seemed unnecessary. Why assert this if it doesn't matter. I like that you play around with gender and blur lines in terms of sexuality. Like someone else said The Advocate has a very set idea of what is and isn't gay. It's like rigid lines of gender "boy" "girl" People are still bothered by ambiguity and when you say I'm not gay or straight, what does it mean? that is going to drive them up the wall. This isn't bad. Who owns certain music and aesthetics? It shouldn't be assumed you are gay/straight by what you like but it still is. Bummer.
oh okay, yeah, i probably did say "i'm not even gay", but that was more, first it's crazy people would want to harm people for what they are wearing, but really they want to harm people because they assume they are something/gay for what they are wearing, and i was probably just commenting on that, but yeah, it isn't necessary.
i haven't sent that response yet, cause i'm not sure what i want to send. i asked sam originaly and he said we should send something more controversial, ha. then he said he should just be our publicist, and kind of laughing, so did i, and we think it would be a good idea and probably really funny. or i could just sent what i wrote up there, hmmm
ALSO you keep getting official looking mail from the state of michigan here. maybe you should change your address.
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i haven't sent that response yet, cause i'm not sure what i want to send. i asked sam originaly and he said we should send something more controversial, ha. then he said he should just be our publicist, and kind of laughing, so did i, and we think it would be a good idea and probably really funny. or i could just sent what i wrote up there, hmmm
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